surfrider4284 Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 (edited) So I went on a first date with a girl recently...we hit it off extremely well. There were no awkward silences, seemed to be great chemistry; it really couldn't have gone any better. She wanted to see me immediately after the date, so I know she is into me. This is good, because the feeling is mutual. She is moving into a new townhouse and subtely hinted that I should come by to help her move a few heavy things around. My question is...we've only gone on one date, but there is obviously a mutual attraction..Do I get her some sort of house warming gift? If so, any ideas? Picking good gifts is not one of my strong suits.. Edited May 19, 2011 by surfrider4284
guy777 Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I would just bring some flowers for the new house. If you really like her, should be careful about hanging with her too long at her new house. Just help her move stuff and then get going because you have something to do, but you made some time to help her. You don't want to make yourself seem too available until she's completely hooked.
Pianiste Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I think it's a great idea to bring her a small house warming gift! It does really depend on what kind of person she is though. But I could imagine something like flowers + vase, with a nice little card attached to it wishing here the best of luck with her new house, as a good gift if you don't know anything more specific. :-)
Author surfrider4284 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 Appreciate those suggestions...I was thinking flowers too, but didn't know if they would make an appropriate house warming gift because they will die and have to be thrown out, and not really stick around in the house Good tip on not sticking around too long and coming across as too available..but at the same time, I hate having to play games like that.
Jazzari Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Appreciate those suggestions...I was thinking flowers too, but didn't know if they would make an appropriate house warming gift because they will die and have to be thrown out, and not really stick around in the house Good tip on not sticking around too long and coming across as too available..but at the same time, I hate having to play games like that. I usually like a small plant with some pretty packaging and a bow to spice it up rather than flowers for a housewarming gift. I think it's really sweet to take her something.
Author surfrider4284 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 and on a related note....you guys don't think getting her a house warming gift will make me come across as too available, desperate, fill in the blank..?
Pianiste Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 No, it's a polite gesture and you show her you care. Whenever a guy brought something for me on similar occasions I never thought "oh, he's too available." I thought "How thoughtful and nice of him!" and it always scored the guy some plus points!
Author surfrider4284 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 ok good...I hate having to worry about games and the how will this make me look bs..Looks like itll be a plant or flowers thanks for the advice.
Jazzari Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 and on a related note....you guys don't think getting her a house warming gift will make me come across as too available, desperate, fill in the blank..? No, not at all. Especially when its something like a house warming gift. My SO brought me gifts on our very first date. I didn't think anything negative at all. Just the opposite. It was wonderful that he took the time and effort for me.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Too fast, too soon. You're already helping her move I think that's enough of a gesture as is. Buying gifts for someone you like is cute but ultimately you should think about timing, especially since you'd only dated her once. Save the presents for the third date.
2sure Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 She is moving into a new house. Bringing a small token as a house warming gift is natural. A house plant is a great idea! Never mind that you have only had one date...you would do the same for a co-worker or new neighbor, she isnt going to read anything into it except that you are polite & thoughtful. After all she has invited you to her home, dont show up empty handed.
Feelsgoodman Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 She wanted to see me immediately after the date, so I know she is into me. This is good, because the feeling is mutual. She is moving into a new townhouse and subtely hinted that I should come by to help her move a few heavy things around. For your sake, I hope you are not considering doing that for her! You've only met her once and she's asking you to help her move? WTF? Mark my words: helping her move would be a major supplicator move that would put you firmly in the friendzone (and a "house warming gift" would just seal the deal). In her subconscious, you will create an image of a guy that she can use (basically, a man-servant) and kill whatever attraction exists between the two of you. Don't be "that" guy.
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