Trimmer Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 (edited) I'm actually more with the OP than most of the rest of you... And I don't think he's overreacting. Remember, he was specifically ASKED for his opinion by the cousin, partly becaue both the cousin and the cousin's girlfriend thought the situation might be a little weird. He's not coming in from the outside with an uninvited opinion; quite the opposite. And, I think the OP is being thoughtful - he's not freaking out, he's examining the question, and he admitted that maybe he's not even right. And he's not asking about "what if she cheats" or suggesting that she needs protecting by the big, strong men around her; I haven't seen that in any of his posts. His question was: is this normal, acceptable, appropriate? And the therapist/patient relationship being what it is, it's a reasonable question to consider, although there may not be enough information available to make a conclusive call on that one yet. If I were the girlfriend (because yes, she is the one who owns the situation and her professional relationship with the therapist - I don't think the OP has suggested otherwise) I would be alert, but not paranoid. I'd answer one of the blocked calls if another comes in. I would think it's better to know exactly what she's dealing with, and either have the clear evidence, or rule it out - one way or the other. Better that, than to be wondering and spinning fantasy possiblities in her head. Edited June 3, 2011 by Trimmer
RecordProducer Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 She was open and honest and told my cousin AS SOON as she got the text. ... and your cousin told YOU and you told the entire world on the internet. Do you really have nothing else to do with your time?
Trimmer Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 ... and your cousin told YOU and you told the entire world on the internet. Do you really have nothing else to do with your time? C'mon RP... (incidentally, hi there - long time!) Give an opinion on his question if you must, but what do any of us do with our personal issues, but bring them here and "tell the entire world on the internet" to discuss them. Why throw rocks at that? Do you really have nothing else to do with your time? I still think it's a fair question for discussion - what do you think of the question itself?
Author chucksagent Posted June 3, 2011 Author Posted June 3, 2011 Record Producer - Isn't that the whole point of this website? Sharing stories and getting opinions? Lol. Or is it merely for the purpose of bragging when one gets accepted to law school (been there, done that, got the tee-shirt). How's that going for you by the way? A lot of work, right? Don't worry, stick with it, it's TOTALLY worth it in the end. Having my own office, being able to tell other people what to do, come and go as I please and making a lot of money is NOT overrated like everyone thinks. Muahaha ok ok, in all seriousness.... Trimmer - I honestly feel like you are my knight (or maiden) in shining armor! Lol! I didn't want to sound defensive but you summed it up perfectly...I WAS ASKED FOR MY OPINION PEOPLE! God, people are honestly so miserable and moody today, it's no wonder everyone is loaded up with drugs..."anything to make the demons go away," right people?!?! Unreal...LOL. Everyones first instinct is to attack someone and try to show how they are smarter and cooler than them; High school mentality. If you don't have an opinion or LOGICAL thought on the matter using facts to support it keep your opinion to yourself. You don't have to personally attack me for NO REASON. I wasn't attacking anyone, just curious. Not to mention - I am getting sick of this whole "Why can't a guy innocently text a girl" BECAUSE 80% OF THE TIME IT ISN'T INNOCENT, therefore, any logical person, goes with the majority. If I was a Dr. and you came to me, and I gave you my prognosis that you had an 80% chance of dying...would you be happy with those odds??? NOPE! So why focus on the 20% (maybe more like 15 or 10%)...sure, maybe the therapist IS in that small %, but isn't it worth someone like my cousins while to CONSIDER OR PONDER the possibility he is actually in the 80-85%!!!!! Again Trimmer, thanks so much for STATING FACTS (something not everyone likes to do) and being a class act.
spiderowl Posted June 4, 2011 Posted June 4, 2011 I've had therapy myself and I would not expect a therapist to do this. I would see it as a relationship purely related to therapy and my therapists have seen it the same way. If therapy with a particular person ended and we went our separate ways, then if I got a text like that it would draw my attention to the fact that he was thinking of me and that he wanted me to know he was. Whether it's inappropriate is hard to say. If she's an adult and the therapy has ended, then she can respond like an adult. Just saying "thanks" would be sufficient to acknowledge the thought and gesture without taking it as anything else. If the texts persist, then clearly the guy is more interested in her. At that point, it is up to her whether she decides to form a relationship with him. I do not know what the rules about relationships with therapists are in your part of the world. If he's breaking a rule by trying to form a relationship with a former client, then any more texting might be inappropriate. If he isn't breaking a rule, then all that matters is how your friend feels about it and if she feels she can deal with it OK. As I see it, the therapy ended so she is no longer a client, but maybe the rules where you are are more restrictive than that.
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