Tres Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I have had my best female friend for more than 20yrs. Our relationship is platonic. We have not seen each other for 6 yrs but we have been in touch by phone and email all the time. She has always felt a little bit competative with me about looks, money and guys. In other words, she always wanted to be better than me in everything. She felt great to know that she was more pretty and more wealthy. I have never cared about the competition with her and I was OK with her issures about being better than me. We had met a few wks ago, and, she has realized that I looked much younger than she because I had done some procedures on my face. She got very bad reaction on me because she was terribly envy. She was talking about her and mine looks all the time and she got very angry and depressed. I felt terrible and hurt because of her attitude. I did everything I could to protect her feelings by wearing no makeup and putting on myself my worst outfits. But, it did not help me at all because she looked really old and kind of fat. I feel that I lost my best friend. It is so depressing. I am very upset because I like her so much. I do not have many good things which she has but I do not hate her for that. For example, she is very wealthy, has a loving husband and has a handsome passionate younger lover. What can I do to make my friend accept me again?
temporaryvisa Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 So let me get this straight. This chick is extremely superficial, compares you to herself to make herself feel better, doesn't feel happy for you when you look good, expresses jealousy and DEPRESSION over not being as "goodlooking" and is presumably only friends with you because she thinks you're not as hot as her--once she sees she isn't hotter than you, she dumps you....PLUS SHE HAS A LOVING HUSBAND WHOM SHE CHEATS ON?! And you like her so much? You want to be her friend? No offense, but LS people seem to have REALLY low standards when it comes to CHARACTER (not always, of course. But I see it often!) This is terrible. Dump the witch and ignore her.
Author Tres Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 She did not dump me. She just wants to drink some of my blood (not in a literal way) because she is very upset. And, I can not dump my best friend of 20yrs as well. When you are best friends with somebody for so long, it feels like your family. So, you can not dump your relatives or parents even they treat you badly.
temporaryvisa Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 She did not dump me. She just wants to drink some of my blood (not in a literal way) because she is very upset. And, I can not dump my best friend of 20yrs as well. When you are best friends with somebody for so long, it feels like your family. So, you can not dump your relatives or parents even they treat you badly. Yes, yes you can. Or atleast not let them step all over you. Ugh, this is terrible. YOU'RE ALLOWING HER TO BE THE SHALLOW IDIOT SHE IS BY ENABLING THIS BEHAVIOR. Fine, don't dump, but let her know what a bad friend/person she is. And no offense, but the fact you still want her to like you after all that reeeeeks of desperation
Author Tres Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 Or atleast not let them step all over you. Ugh, this is terrible. YOU'RE ALLOWING HER TO BE THE SHALLOW IDIOT SHE IS BY ENABLING THIS BEHAVIOR. Fine, don't dump, but let her know what a bad friend/person she is. And no offense, but the fact you still want her to like you after all that reeeeeks of desperation I agree that I am desperate because I have a few friends. How can I let her know that I do not allow her to step all over me? BTW I want to avoid a conflict and let her know that in an intelligent way.
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