SJC2008 Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I'll be 30 at the end of the year and have never had a serious relationship or an "official" girlfriend for that matter. I'm not a virgin or anything but am shy when meeting women. When I say shy, I don't mean to the point where if a woman approached me Id put my head between my legs, I mean It just takes me a few dates to be my complete self ya know. I't does not take me long to come around, but I feel like women want to be swept off their feet on the first date and are too quick to juge (sorry ladies, not trying to loop you all togehter) which will never happen with me. What's bothering me is that a couple of months ago I asked a customer out at work (1st time for cold approach ever) and we had a date and she blew me off and wouldnt take my calls and i texted her she finally responded and said she had a recent breakup and wasnt ready to date, then a month later I signed up for an online dating site and guess who has a profile on there? Her so that told me it was me, and it made me wonder what the hell is wrong with me to not even get a second date. My head is so f'd up I don't know what to do. If I get another date ill be a nervous wreck thinking one false move ill be screwed. Also, being single has always botherd me a LITTLE, but I have always been pretty happy,but ever since this girl blew me off I think about being single ALMOST all day 24/7 and that's not healthy and it has never bothered me this much, guess it's because im approaching the big three oh. I had no luck with online dating if yall read any of my previous posts. Also, I wont be done with school untill 2013, I'll be 31 and I think that may be a turnoff to women too. Who knows. If you met me somwhere like a bar, or was a customer of mine you would think I'm just normal every day joe, because I am. I just have no luck when it comes to women.
D4ly1341 Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 First off, breathe. Calm down and relax yourself. It's such a cliche thing to say, but you have to realize that what women really want is a guy to be honest and forward with them. Not to sweep them off their feet with silly, sweet nothings whispered in their ear spoken in a language from a distant land under a romantic, moonlit dinner by the sea. Yeah, that might be nice; but I can tell you it's more important to do that when you've really connected with them. Don't do it on a first date. Who are you? Are you fun? Are you silly? Are you creative? Are you childish? Are you smart? Do you have hobbies or passions? What I do, personally (and this doesn't work all the time, but it will let you filter out who is worth dating again), is take a girl on a date doing something I like to do. For example, if I meet a girl who has never shot a gun before, I always take them on a date to the gun range, and then a quiet lunch or dinner afterwards just to sit and talk. Why? Because I want to show them who I am right from the get go; if they don't like it then I know not to date them again. I took the girl I'm dating now on a date to my favorite Greek restaurant. After that, she got a text from a friend who lived 50 miles away who, at the time, opened up a firework stand for the 4th of July. Her friend said "I can really go for some hookers and horse pop (lemonade). She told him that she was on a date and couldn't go see him. So I said "let's go!" She laughed at me and said "What?" I replied, "let's go meet him!" So, we drove fifty miles, we bought lemonade, and I bought a name tag and put it on my chest and wrote "Hooker" on it. Then, I covered the lemonade label and wrote "Horse Pop" on it. She said it was the best date she's been on. It's all about showing them who you are and not being ashamed of it. Money is nothing, looks are nothing. Who you are is everything. Be proud of that, put it on a pedestal, and boast yourself to the world. And don't forget to smile, and eat a hot dog, because hot dogs are ****ing delicious.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 It's all about showing them who you are and not being ashamed of it. This is true. Who you are always comes out eventually, so it's best to come right out with it from the start. And try to get past the worrying. Women are just people, like you. Nothing to worry about. Have fun with this!
lolo1234 Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I think that you are just reeling from the rejection and you need to give yourself some time to get back to your normal level of self-esteem. It doesn't sound like there's anything wrong with you, you just weren't right for her. Rejection sucks! Its just a part of life though that we have to accept. Anyhow I am in a similar predicament where I just got rejected by a guy and I'm just completely questioning myself and feeling anxious as well.
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