cmunley86 Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I have recently started talking to a guy that's a friend of my sister's boyfriend. However, he's in the millitary and stationed in another state 10 hrs away from me. He comes up once a month or so. Another issue, he may be stationed in another country for a few months. We have been talking on the phone/texting almost daily and seem to be hitting it off. (Which has never happened when my sister has attempted to set me up with someone..) I had a bad experience with a Long distance relationship in the past, so I need advice from people that are in similar situations, and how to make it work the right way.
heartcore Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 if you both like each other, then set your expectations. He's in the military. Has he made himself a career out of it? You've been in a LDR before so think hard and see if you can be in another relationship where you can't see each other on a regular basis? How about you? will you have the time and funds to going over to visit him? Do you have a career where you can get up and leave or are you bound to your own business? As I always say, there is no casual dating when it comes to LDR. When you enter into one, you have to know that you can tolerate not having physical contact for a long period of time. you have to set the expectation of who is going to visit who and who. also who is spending. then you have to set who is the one who will relocate to be together (it will obviously you if he's going to stay in the military... then you have to ask yourself if you think you can live life as a military wife) your first step is to see if he even wants a LDR. My fiance broke up with his ex because he didn't want a LDR with her. She wasn't worth the time and effort. However months later he chose to be with me. I have so much issues that I told him EVERY reason why he shouldn't date me. I told him that I wont be able to visit him and I'm barely getting by and if he end up with me he will do most of the work. I showed him how difficult it will be to be with me but he was determine to make me his girl. So how about your guy? Is he ready to make you his girl no matter what kind of obstacles he has to go through?
Author cmunley86 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 I have recently started talking to a guy that's a friend of my sister's boyfriend. However, he's in the millitary and stationed in another state 10 hrs away from me. He comes up once a month or so. Another issue, he may be stationed in another country for a few months. We have been talking on the phone/texting almost daily and seem to be hitting it off. (Which has never happened when my sister has attempted to set me up with someone..) I had a bad experience with a Long distance relationship in the past, so I need advice from people that are in similar situations, and how to make it work the right way. He did say he wanted a relationship, and wanted to know the chances of us dating in the future. But, I'll have to discuss further details with him.
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