millor86 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Hi, Thanks for reading my thread hopefully i've put this in the right place! So my situation is that i am in a relationship with a girl that is in love with me. I love her but i'm not convinced that the love is strong enough to keep us together long-term. We have been dating for a year and three months. I'm her first proper bf and i'd say i'm a good bf, i treat her very well and put a lot of effort into the relationship. I've only kissed one girl since being together and that was a drunk thing that lasted about 30 seconds in a night club. I'd forgotten about and i didn't tell her. She would have been pissed off but i'm sure it wouldn't have been a deal breaker. She is from my home town but she goes to university and lives there for about 1/2 of the year. The uni is over a two hour drive so I only see her on wkends for 1/2 of the year and it is a lot of effort. She still has two years of uni remaining. I work in the city and it's quite tiring sometimes so commuting for 3 hours to her place on a friday is a pain. But i do enjoy her company and spending time with her. About me, I am 5 years older than her and have only had 1 (serious) previous relationship. I've only had sex with my last gf and my current gf. I've been involved in two long-term relationships and i suppose been a little unlucky when not in relationships not to have had more meaningless sex. Maybe some people think that's lucky... I would like to have got out there a bit more when younger. The problem is i'm lusting over girls all the time when i'm not with my gf. Not seeing her for 5 days is hard. I haven't ever done anything premeditated but i'm not sure how much longer I can go on and I feel that given an opportunity to cheat i'd do so. I know that sounds bad but at 24 years old and only having had sex with two girls in my life i want to get out there a bit more before i'm say too old to do so. I'm finding the distance difficult and i just don't know what to do. She still has two years left of uni, i'm at an age where i have money and she is always broke so i buy everything. Even though i love her i'm not convinced that the relationship is going to work when she has another two years of uni to get through. She is back for summer soon so i'll most likely see how things go over the next few months. I'm really stuck and just really wanted to discuss this with some people who have been in a similar situation. Or can provide advice. Maybe i should just be lucky with what i have and stop being a jerk?
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