teaforone Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 This might get long, so bear with me here. The guy i like i've known for almost 6 years, but he really didn't start talking to me until the end of last year. Then after i broke up with my then boyfriend things started progressing between my friend and i. We started talking more, asking me to hang out, offering me rides home, picking on each other,etc... Basically, you could tell we we're interested in each other. Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago. We had been hanging out with each other for the past two weekends at this point just with each other. The Saturday before Mother's Day he wanted to hang out but i suggested we do it the next day because i wasn't sure how long it would take him to grab some food after getting off work, and i figure it would be too late by then. This is where the problem started, because i didn't explain at all why we couldn't hang out that particular day and suggested the next day instead he stopped asking me to hang out after that. After talking to a couple of people they think that he thinks i'm not interested in him,(i've been told i'm really hard to read) and that i was just offering to hang out another day to be nice. Kind of like when someone asks you to a movie but you don't want to go, so instead of just saying no way you say "sorry, i can't how about some other time?" which really means i don't want to see a movie with you at all. I've been texting him still though, and he's still been answering and referring to me by the cutesy nickname since we started talking. Good conversation still. I texted him yesterday afternoon to see what he was up to, and if he'd want to hang out this weekend but he never answered. The only time he never answers is when he leaves his phone off for days at a time. Should i wait and see if he gets back to me, or get his roommate to relay a message to him? I'm just afraid of waiting too long to ask him. Or should i wait and see if he texts me and asks?
Sabali Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Who leaves their phone off for days? Is this a cellphone? A cellphone that is actually off will go directly to voicemail. Does this happen when you call him? In any event, I would have actually called him instead of text. I would never pull someone else into a romantic situation so avoid relaying messages through other people. If you must leave relay a message to him, you should actually call him.
TuffCookieX Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Who leaves their phone off for days? Is this a cellphone? A cellphone that is actually off will go directly to voicemail. Does this happen when you call him? In any event, I would have actually called him instead of text. I would never pull someone else into a romantic situation so avoid relaying messages through other people. If you must leave relay a message to him, you should actually call him. I just looked for the "like" button on this reply before remembering we're not on facebook. Who the hell has a cell phone and keeps it turned off?
Sabali Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I just looked for the "like" button on this reply before remembering we're not on facebook. Who the hell has a cell phone and keeps it turned off? Lol. That is hilarious.
Sabali Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I sort of have one but I always keep it off and the voicemail isn't setup. Back to OP. I think you need to tell him you have been into him for 6 years and there is no reason to be leery. What if Ed McMahon returns from the grave and call you up to tell you that you just won 1 million dollars from the Publisher Clearing House sweepstakes? You will miss the message if your phone is off with no voicemail.
Feelsgoodman Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Should i wait and see if he gets back to me, or get his roommate to relay a message to him? I'm just afraid of waiting too long to ask him. Or should i wait and see if he texts me and asks? None of the above. Talk to him yourself.
Sabali Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 The million wouldn't actually help me so I am missing out on nothing except a good old "HiYo!" Come on, how could a cool mill not help anyone?
Sabali Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 For the love of God, woman, tell him you like him! I can't tell you how much easier it would be if girls just said how they felt, it's so much more attractive and it's so important to have open communication anyway. I agree with this. I don't think a lady really doesn't lose anything from just telling a guy that she likes them. It gets us singing in the rain and it will likely get her the guys that she likes. Unfortunately, this is not an ideal world but I agree with this.
SJC2008 Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 When he wanted to hang out and you couldn't, the fact that you offered an alternative showed interest. If you did not, that would have been a sign of no interest. Although, if I read right it would have been mothers day when you offered to go out. I'd wait until he gets your message and take it from there.
Author teaforone Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 Who leaves their phone off for days? Is this a cellphone? A cellphone that is actually off will go directly to voicemail. Does this happen when you call him? In any event, I would have actually called him instead of text. I would never pull someone else into a romantic situation so avoid relaying messages through other people. If you must leave relay a message to him, you should actually call him. He does. Not all the time though, the majority of the time i'm able to reach him. And yes its a cell phone.
Author teaforone Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 When he wanted to hang out and you couldn't, the fact that you offered an alternative showed interest. If you did not, that would have been a sign of no interest. Although, if I read right it would have been mothers day when you offered to go out. I'd wait until he gets your message and take it from there. What if he thought i was just being nice though and offering another day since i didn't give an explanation for not being able to go out? Yeah, it would have been Mother's Day but they weren't definite plans or anything.
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