VicJay79 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Hey LS'ers, My girlfriend will be going to a Usher concert today and I decided that I should suprise her with a cute letter from Usher. In the morning I casually mentioned that I new usher personally (story begins here!). Later today I sent her the following e-mail from a throw away gmail account called [COLOR=#990000][email protected][/COLOR] Here is what I wrote: Dear Girl, This is Usher Terrence Raymond IV. I just reached your city, and am preparing for our concert later tonight. Anyway, an old-friend of mine VicJay79 told me that you would be coming to see Akon and I perform and gave me your e-mail address. I just wanted to reach out and thank you and also let you know its fans like you that make our job so wonderful. I am sure VicJay79 has probably told you about our days in Mo-Town and how we use to do duets. That boy has soul, and I am really glad that he finally found his soulmate that he gives himself too. VicJay79 also asked me to give you an personally signed autograph, which I have included as an attachment. Hope to see you at the concert, Usher P.S. I know you probably think this e-mail is fake. Do you honestly someone would spend all this time creating an elaborate story, creating an e-mail account, learning how to use all sorts of photo editing software, just to see you smile? --- end of e-mail The End of the mail "Just to make you smile" is my little statement. I thought it would be a dead give away. I also spent a great deal of time with various photo editing software to make the autograph look personalized. Anyway she calls me back and is super excited and keeps on asking me if i knew what was up. I played along a little bit and then finally fessed up that this was just a cute way to make her smile. She seemed a bit let down and asked me if I did this much? I feel kind of bummed my romantic gesture which i thought was cute and sweet didn't get the attention it deserved. Would you girls find this cute?? Vicjay79
Author VicJay79 Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 Really Bummed people?! I thought this was really cute. Is she just CRAZY!
samspade Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Arranging for your gf to receive a fake email from another dude - a celebrity dude - kind of lame, bro. Not only that but you got her hopes up so the reveal was a disappointment. Bottom line - your GF probably got a few tingles thinking she'd get backstage with Usher. Don't lower your status with her like that.
Nexus One Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I don't think it was a jerk move, but I don't see a romantic element in it either. More of a prank I think, one which was intended to be sweet, but because she didn't realize it was fake, it probably disappointed her somewhat that you didn't really have a history with Usher. Personally I can appreciate that you put all that work and skill into it, but when the prank contains an element in it where you eventually are going to have to disappoint the other person, then it's hard to be sure how it will turn out. You meant well though and if it's in your personality to do romantic things for her, then just keep doing it, but perhaps pranks are not the way to show it, unless you really do want to show your romantic affection to her through a prank. (if that's in your personality then that can be a way to do it) Just reset and try again. Try to come up with something that will surprise her in a positive way. For example, buy a bag of pink heart shaped candy sweets, then lay a trail of them from her bed to somewhere like a flower pot several rooms away, then in the flower pot have 2 tickets to some concert/destination(or whatever) or just a note that tells her you love her. I know it's kind of corny, but I plan on doing that one day, I don't care if it's corny or unoriginal, it creates a positive memory, I think.
iJester Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Just reset and try again. Try to come up with something that will surprise her in a positive way. I think you should give up on surprises. Just do sweet things for her, directly.
NoMagicBullet Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 No, it's not cute. It wasn't romantic, it was a prank. A real romantic gesture is getting her a real letter or autograph (not an e-mail autograph, the real thing on paper) from Usher. Writing a fake e-mail from a throwaway account just means you made an effort to jerk her around and make her look like a fool. A real romantic gesture is sending her a genuine message from you to make her smile. If I was her, I wouldn't just be down or disappointed, I'd be pissed and seriously questioning ("you do this much?) your character and value as a boyfriend.
Author VicJay79 Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 NoMagicBullet, What do you recommend I do? No, it's not cute. It wasn't romantic, it was a prank. A real romantic gesture is getting her a real letter or autograph (not an e-mail autograph, the real thing on paper) from Usher. Writing a fake e-mail from a throwaway account just means you made an effort to jerk her around and make her look like a fool. A real romantic gesture is sending her a genuine message from you to make her smile. If I was her, I wouldn't just be down or disappointed, I'd be pissed and seriously questioning ("you do this much?) your character and value as a boyfriend.
Author VicJay79 Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad: I am so angry at myself! I hate trying so hard and failing. I honestly thought this was a cute joke, beause throughout the e-mail i gave the indication that it WAS a joke. :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:
Author VicJay79 Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 I feel like such a failure as a boyfriend
samspade Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I feel like such a failure as a boyfriend Wrong attitude - sure to make things worse. Don't go looking for her forgiveness. Just put it behind you and get her something nice. Better yet, tell her you f'd up and then back off for a few hours or a day. Let her be upset but don't argue with her or beg for forgiveness. Also, don't go out and spend a ton of $$ either - she'll see right through that.
Nexus One Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I feel like such a failure as a boyfriend Don't be so hard on yourself, it wasn't that bad. Just a joke of which she didn't get the humor, no biggy.
alethean Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Oh dear, you were serious. Okay, you're not a failure or anything. It wasn't terrible...just not romantic because of the pranky element to it. I have to agree with samspade's advice because the slip-up was not that big of a deal.
fishtaco Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Generally, when you want to prank your GF/BF and have them appreciate it, as opposed to just prank them for your own amusement, you want the surprise to go in a positive direction, i.e. opposite of disappointment. Like, oh let's get some fast food. Surprise! Your buddies at the fast food place decorated it with candles and flowers, and you brought her a steak dinner from the expensive steak house on the other side of the parking lot. And a very basic prank, but works on most people, is to ignore them on their birthday, pretend you don't remember, make them go shopping for tools at the hardware store with you (snore for most women), then when you bring her back, surprise birthday party. It makes them get mad at you first, until they realize the effort you put in there. Again, the surprise goes in the positive direction. Your prank, the surprise goes in the negative direction. Which is great if it's for your own amusement so you can point and laugh at their reaction. Not so great if you want to earn points.
Author VicJay79 Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 Dear Friends, What scares me the most is I didn't even THINK this could have been thought of as mean, or even as a prank. I thought she would appreciate as she read the e-mail how much time It took for me to do all of this. Seriously the photo-shopping skills alone took HOURS!!! Now my worry is this. Even with this much though and effort, I was unable to detect what an ******* thing this was to do, how will I avoid making similiar mistakes again. Even my best judgement failed me. This is why i have failed..... <--- I do realize that care packages, flowers, and more direct methods of romance are easier things to go to. However, that removes the 'creativity' element out of the equation. You can only get so many care packages, so many greeting-cards. I wanted to do something more unique! I struck out, and it took SO long for me to do this. I just feel horrible hearing her disapointment in her voice.... Actually getting a signed autograph is upwards of 200.00 and is outside of my budget.
Dust Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Dear Friends, What scares me the most is I didn't even THINK this could have been thought of as mean, or even as a prank. I thought she would appreciate as she read the e-mail how much time It took for me to do all of this. Seriously the photo-shopping skills alone took HOURS!!! Now my worry is this. Even with this much though and effort, I was unable to detect what an ******* thing this was to do, how will I avoid making similiar mistakes again. Even my best judgement failed me. This is why i have failed..... <--- I do realize that care packages, flowers, and more direct methods of romance are easier things to go to. However, that removes the 'creativity' element out of the equation. You can only get so many care packages, so many greeting-cards. I wanted to do something more unique! I struck out, and it took SO long for me to do this. I just feel horrible hearing her disapointment in her voice.... Actually getting a signed autograph is upwards of 200.00 and is outside of my budget. You just have to figure this thing out for yourself. Posters before me explained it. Yes it was exciting to think you knew a celebrity and she was going to meet him or at least receive contact (email) from him. Why would she light up when she found out it was all fake. It’s like expecting the day your kids find out Santa isn’t real to be a good one. Sure they enjoy the lie while it last but when they find out it isn’t real that’s not the time to expect joy.
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