fwang Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 My ex dumped me 6 weeks ago. Even though we broke up in a decent way, I had stronger feelings for him so I was sad and heart-broken. But he told me that he still wanted to hang out with me as a friend. According to him, he and some of his exs are still friends since they are great person (This is BS) . After the broke up, I talked to him maybe one time per week on Gtalk, keeping the conversation very short. I didn't want to bother him very much but i did want to hear from him. And he never ignored my messages. 3 weeks later after the break up, we went swimming together and chatted like friends while swimming. After it, I stopped talking to him because I knew I have to move on. A couple of days later, Ex unfriended about 3/4 his friends (150 people) on facebook. And all of his ex girlfriends were gone at the same time. But I am on the friend list. Then, 1 week later, he sent me a email, asking "How do you like the bands I recommended when we were swimming". I responded, but he gave me a cold feet. He explained that he was kind of busy at that moment so I said "Ok, we can talk about this later. Have a good day! Cya!" Now, I just found out that I was blocked by ex on Gtalk... In my opinion, the only reason for he to do so is that he is seeing someone else, which I respect. So, do you block your exs? Reasons? WILL YOU INITIATE TO TALK TO YOUR EX AND THEN BLOCK HIM/HER ????
Jazzari Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 If he initiated the talk, then abruptly closed down - I would guess his new girl walked in the room. And if she caught him anyway, that would explain the block. Just a guess.
Pianiste Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I don't see why seeing someone else would be the (only) reason for all of this. I mean he kept contact with all of his exes for such a long time, even during your relationship, and then 6 weeks after the break up he would suddenly delete all of them (and some other > 100 friends) from his friendslist and block you just because he found someone else? While it doesn't sounds like that ever stopped him before so why should it be a problem now? Don't boggle you head over it too much and take a few steps back. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
Jazzari Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I don't see why seeing someone else would be the (only) reason for all of this. I mean he kept contact with all of his exes for such a long time, even during your relationship, and then 6 weeks after the break up he would suddenly delete all of them (and some other > 100 friends) from his friendslist and block you just because he found someone else? While it doesn't sounds like that ever stopped him before so why should it be a problem now? Don't boggle you head over it too much and take a few steps back. There's plenty of fish in the sea.Because his new girl insists on it while the others didn't object.
Author fwang Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 I don't see why seeing someone else would be the (only) reason for all of this. I mean he kept contact with all of his exes for such a long time, even during your relationship, and then 6 weeks after the break up he would suddenly delete all of them (and some other > 100 friends) from his friendslist and block you just because he found someone else? While it doesn't sounds like that ever stopped him before so why should it be a problem now? That's exactly what I am thinking. Also, what he said contradicts to what he has done. I am a foreigner living in USA and I really don't get this. And thanks for your comment!
tigressA Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Because his new girl insists on it while the others didn't object. Yep. Someone who not only has boundaries, but enforces them. Good for her, whoever she is. I know few people who are truly okay with their SO maintaining regular contact with exes--they say they're okay with it to their partner's face while secretly fuming. I block all my exes simply because they are exes. I didn't want to be "just friends" with them when we were dating. Why would I want to be just friends with them once we're no longer together?
Author fwang Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 Yep. Someone who not only has boundaries, but enforces them. Good for her, whoever she is. I know few people who are truly okay with their SO maintaining regular contact with exes--they say they're okay with it to their partner's face while secretly fuming. I block all my exes simply because they are exes. I didn't want to be "just friends" with them when we were dating. Why would I want to be just friends with them once we're no longer together? But I already stopped talking to him. He is the one who initiated to talk. He shouldn't do that if he was going to ignore me later. He even unfriended his high school sweetheart and college lovable girlfriend who are with somebody else now. I guess he would also want to unfriend me on facebook but he knows that I will be pissed off.
utterer of lies Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 n what circumstances would you block your exs? I blocked all my exes that left me. I didn't block any of my exes that I left.
thatone Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 But I already stopped talking to him. He is the one who initiated to talk. He shouldn't do that if he was going to ignore me later. he wanted to look for someone else but didn't wanna be without women to hang around with. you didn't wanna be without men to hang around with so you agreed. if you would've found someone else that insisted you break contact with exs you would've done the same thing. it just so happens that he found someone else first. you're not a victim of anything, stop trying to be one . you broke up, he doesn't owe you anything.
tigressA Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 he wanted to look for someone else but didn't wanna be without women to hang around with. you didn't wanna be without men to hang around with so you agreed. if you would've found someone else that insisted you break contact with exs you would've done the same thing. it just so happens that he found someone else first. you're not a victim of anything, stop trying to be one . you broke up, he doesn't owe you anything. Agreed! ---
Pianiste Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I didn't block any of my exes that I left. Guys I have broken up with have sometimes blocked me and I was fine with that. Good for them that they're trying to move on! And if they at some point want to initiate contact again and try to be friends they know where to find me. Nobody ever broke up with me but I would definitely block them if that happened!
Author fwang Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 he wanted to look for someone else but didn't wanna be without women to hang around with. you didn't wanna be without men to hang around with so you agreed. if you would've found someone else that insisted you break contact with exs you would've done the same thing. it just so happens that he found someone else first. you're not a victim of anything, stop trying to be one . you broke up, he doesn't owe you anything. I understand. That's what I keep saying to myself. But my feelings do get hurt. He and I are still friends on Facebook. Should I unfriend him?
thatone Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I understand. That's what I keep saying to myself. But my feelings do get hurt. He and I are still friends on Facebook. Should I unfriend him? send him a message saying "looks like you met someone new, i'm happy for you, and wish you the best" and leave it at that. then you have obligated yourself to stop trying to contact him.
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