Eternal Sunshine Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I am not talking about myself but in general. Say you are in love with someone that loves you back. You are together and everything is great. The relationship has the expiry date though, outside of either of your control. And for the argument's sake say that there is absolutely no way for the relationship to continue past that point. That point is few months into the future. Would you: a) Enjoy it while it last? b) End it now, before you get even more attached?
denise_xo Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I would definitely go for a). I believe that the experience of love is really precious and I'd make the most out of that, even if it had an expiry date.
cupcake1 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 You need to ellaborate on the reason why it can't continue passed this point? if it is because they are going away or they have an illness etc then i would say enjoy it while it lasts and deal with the pain later as life is too short to pass by opportunities to be happy.
oaks Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 If we both know about this expiry date (eg, we both know that one of us is moving a long way away) then I would try to discuss it with her and decide whether it's worth doing option A given the risk of getting attached and then upset. In other words, have a talk along the lines of "you know this is just a fling, right, because of the time-expiry-issue? Are you okay with that?" Someone I'm talking with (but haven't met yet) right now is moving soon for work, and she doesn't know where she's moving because it depends on work, so potentially I could be in this situation myself.
Kamille Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 If feelings of respect and love are mutual, than definitely a. I'm like Denise_xo, I believe the experience of love is very precious. I also believe we can experience more than one love in our lives and that there can be different kinds of love. My relationship with bf was supposed to have an expiration point because of distance, and yet, it never expired .
LexiB Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I was in this situation a few years ago - knew he was moving across the country pretty much from the day we met. I resisted getting close to him...a lot at first...but ultimately went with option A. Hurt like hell in the end but the experiences we had in those months definitely made it worth it. Gotta say though, if ever presented with such a choice again, I wouldn't put myself through that a second time.
Star Gazer Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 For me, it would depend on why there was an expiry date, and how set in stone that expiry dye really was.
tb24 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 a. Besides, you never know what will change. Perhaps that reason will no longer be there. If it's a distance thing, why cant you go with them/they go with you if you have something really great?
phineas Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 b. But act like I took a. & start back-burnering women knowing i'll be single soon.
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