cookiecrumbles Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Ok so my first relationship awhile ago I got my heart ripped out of my chest and spent alot of time on here hoping to read something i wanted to hear or maybe there was some miracle strategy i could use to get my ex back. Well after using Loveshack you get used to the fact it is a place where you learn from your past mistakes by other peoples posts and opinions and its a place where you can come chat to people in similar situations instead of doing something silly. Which brings me to my point... I just got dumped by my gf of 2 and a half years last week, but instead of crying and begging etc (which is what i did in my first relationship) i just accepted it and said ok then if thats what you want. My ex was still messaging me after saying i miss you already, or hey what you upto? and we saw each other at a mutual friends party and gave each other hug and it was all awkward and stuff. So the next day i decided to tell my ex that I needed time, my own time to clear my head and let the events of the break up sink in and that i need to focus on me for awhile and sort out my life etc so if she could not text me or anything id appreciate it. She said she wouldnt text me but was like but my hearts breaking, this is going to be soo hard, and i just said well yeah it is but you let me go so i need to deal with it and you sending me texts and seeing you doesnt help so i need time to clear my head. The main point of this story is you need to stick up for yourself if someone has let you go, let them go, I always liked the saying if you love someone let them go and if its meant to be they will come back. Other thing is you need time to yourself to clear your head and eventually in the long run you will either come out stronger with them because you needed time apart or you will come out stronger by yourself
Sugarkane Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Hey Cookiecrumbles I'm to hear you didn't waste you time/money on those so called miracle strategies, they're just a money making thing. Unfortunately there is no real miracle and polite to you. I did everything right aswell never begged, pleaded, called or anything. Went complete NC from day1. Yet my ex told everyone that I was the "crazy one". My ex dumped me completely out of the blue and was callous and very rude to me. He dumped and insulted me by text. To say that he was a bad dumper would be a complete understatement. He poisoned everyone against me and I lost all of my friends aswell. I often wonder what the point in doing the right thing was? My ex painted me black from day1. He played the victim and nothing was his fault. He refused to talk to me, let alone meet up with me. I never heard from him again and have had nothing but radio silence since. I hope he never conacts me either. I hope you stay in NC and continue your healing.
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