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i have been seeing this guy for almost two months now. things have been great but rather at a slow pace (mostly because i want to). my question is, how long should i wait to bring up about being in an exclusive relationship w/ him? we have both said that we like each other very much, but that we haven't exactly talked about "us." i haven't been sexually involved w/ him yet because i really see a long-term relationship w/ him. i want to take my time to get to really know him before i get seriously involved.

 

how do i go about discussing a possibility of LTR w/ him? i really have a hard time expressing my feelings and exposing myself to him. i think i might be afraid of intimacy. i'm afraid he'll reject me or abandon me or neglect me. i really really like him a lot and haven't felt this way in a long time. at the same time, i am also talking to other guys. but i think i am ready to settle down w/ him.

 

i'd like to give it a shot w/ him. is two months too soon?? how do i go about saying it? everytime i try to have a talk w/ him, i get nervous and tongue-tied. any suggestions?

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how do i go about discussing a possibility of LTR w/ him?

 

Unless you are going to ask him to marry you, I suggest you do not say anything. Let it happen naturally. If he does not feel the same way about a LTR you might push him away. Do it day by day, take it slow as you've have been.

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