Mangomonkey Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 And then keep it going. I seen threads on here tearing women down on being slutty. Alright thats cool you don't like sluts. Now threads on here about women not being slutty enough!?!? Really? That being said. I will be the first to say. sex don't matter. Its fun but it don't. Just gotta ask yourselves a real good question. If you end up choosing between two people. One is only raw sexual desire and the other raw personality desire. Which one would you rather be with forever? Cant have both and no in betweens and yes scenarios like this exist in real life.
FrostFire Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 oh boy you've opened up a can of worms here. This post will be amusing to watch. I agree with you on the sex doesn't matter to me. It's a nice thing but it's not what defines a relationship for me. My love for a woman is based off of more than just sexual feelings. Oh well guess some of us just are "different." I am so glad to see I'm not the only one that feels this way.
Nexus One Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 In related news: Different people have different desires and opinions. While at times it might seem like there is one LoveShack hive-mind, there's really not. Some guys might like girls who are sluts and some guys don't like them, more news at eleven.
FrostFire Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 You know what I'm not being honest with myself. I am at a stage in my life where I do value sex more highly right now. I can honestly say if the sex was lacking in my relationship then no amount of personality could hold me together. Posts like these really make me question reasons we're in relationships with women? Maybe we really are just staying in them for the sex? Errr... Now I'm going to get torn apart for changing my mind. At this moment in my life if I I had to pick it would be sexual desire. Perhaps as I got older my viewpoint might change, but I doubt it. Guess I'm a hypocrite now Ahh well, I actually considered this post more in depth and can't edit what I said. Damn.
Kamille Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Maybe we really are just staying in them for the sex? Errr... Freudian Slip?
FrostFire Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Freudian Slip? lol wow uhoh. Guess you all know where my mind was at when writing this!
Kamille Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 i'm not a guy but... My partner and I both value sexual intimacy in our relationship. It has nothing to do, however, with our past sexual behaviors or the number of partners we've each had. I guess I'm wondering if there really is a correlation between valuing sexual intimacy in a relationship and being considered sexually promiscuous.
Author Mangomonkey Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 Me personally i dont care either way. Depending on the woman. If she is slutty but desires me and has a set of good morales and standards for herself and others she is a catch. If she is not slutty but is the same then she is also a catch. and to be honest i believe that you can bring out that side of any woman just like you can bring out that side of any man but thats just my opinion. My issues with sluts comes from this. When one makes me work hard to get it but are more than willing to throw it at another man. Screw that. There are exceptions if i think she is worth it and thats the truth but overall screw that.
FrostFire Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Fact is can you live in a relationship without any sexual desire? I thought long and hard about this and realized okay maybe I was wrong in saying sex doesn't matter much to me. When getting to know a woman it's not my top priority because I am not the type of guy that will just go bang any woman out there (way to many std's and have lost close friends over this). I first want to connect with a woman intellectually and see if they can relate and accept me for me then I'll see about sex. Only after that will a woman have won me over. That's not to say sex is not a priority it's just not my first priority. Once I'm in a relationship it holds a much higher priority for me than I realized because it's so damn fun! If the sexual desire was lacking then I would soon lose interest. Who here can tell me they wouldn't?
fishtaco Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Why is sex given such mythical powers? Is it because it's been demonized by religion?
Fondue Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 When I was younger, I thought highly of virgin/low-count women. This was probably due t the fact that I more or less inexperienced myself. Now that I've grown up, I honestly don't care. The numbers don't matter to me. I only have 3 conditions that need to be met for me to sleep with a new partner in a RELATIONSHIP. 1) They're free of STDs. 2) They don't cheat on me. 3) They don't get attached to be after the sex (this one mostly applies to virgin girls who seem to get this insane attraction afterward and make things incredibly uncomfortable for those of us that just have the sex, not make a big deal of it). Sex is just that-- sex. It's meant to be enjoyable and pleasurable. I don't care about my partner's past. If they're safe/clean and are loyal, that's fine by me .
collegeguy_24 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I don't care if a woman wants to be slutty, its her decision. WHat annoys me is when they whine and complain that they can't find a good man to have a relationship with. Then when one comes along, she treats him like crap and dumps him to go back to her slutty ways and to complaining why they can't find a good man.
chuckles11 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 And then keep it going. I seen threads on here tearing women down on being slutty. Alright thats cool you don't like sluts. Now threads on here about women not being slutty enough!?!? Really? You do realize that there are multiple posters on this board, right? I know it appears that people are being hypocritical, but that's because there are many different people posting with a variety of different opinions.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Just because a woman loves sex, it doesn't make her a slut. Any woman who would be defined as a "slut", aka is having sex with more than one guy at once, is probably not good for me (as a Christian/religious person.)
collegeguy_24 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Just because a woman loves sex, it doesn't make her a slut. Any woman who would be defined as a "slut", aka is having sex with more than one guy at once, is probably not good for me (as a Christian/religious person.) Thats an interesting point, different people do have different definitions of the word. For me, a slut would be someone who had sex with a large number of people, in a short amount of time. For me that would be in the double digit numbers. Like say 10, 15, 25 people in say 2 or 3 or 4 years. Thats a lot of people for a shot amount of time and shows, for me at least, an inability to actually commit to a relationship if she is able to move from one guy to the next so fast. At the same time, I think the same thing for men. If a man sleeps with a large number of women in a short amount of time, I like to call them the man-slut. The only difference, at least in my opinion, is gender. The same definition applies.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 For me, a slut would be someone who had sex with a large number of people, in a short amount of time. For me that would be in the double digit numbers. For the record, that is also my definition of the word. However, if someone just loves sex, within a committed relationship, she is not a slut. Many guys would disagree with me, however.
collegeguy_24 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 For the record, that is also my definition of the word. However, if someone just loves sex, within a committed relationship, she is not a slut. Many guys would disagree with me, however. I agree with you. My current GF loves sex, I took her virginity and she is exploring this new side of life. But she only wants it with me because we are in a committed relationship. Theres nothing wrong with having a lot sex in a committed relationship. Though I am curious, what man would call a girl who loves sex in a committed relationship with one guy a slut? It doesn't make sense.
chuckles11 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I agree with you. Though I am curious, what man would call a girl who loves sex in a committed relationship with one guy a slut? It doesn't make sense. Someone who thinks its wrong to have sex before marriage?
collegeguy_24 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Someone who thinks its wrong to have sex before marriage? point taken. Though that brings another whole argument that I would rather not get into. Usually, and this is from experience with people I used to hang out with, this kind of thing turns into a religious discussion.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Yeah, as a Christian, I tend to have the 'no sex before marriage' talk a lot. But since I don't imagine myself ever getting married, I probably will die a virgin unless I give that up. Sorry, I drove this off topic. I'd rather stay with my morals than get an STD, but I don't want to turn this into a religious discussion either.
thatdog Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 For me, a slut would be someone who had sex with a large number of people, in a short amount of time. For me that would be in the double digit numbers. Like say 10, 15, 25 people in say 2 or 3 or 4 years. Thats a lot of people for a shot amount of time and shows, for me at least, an inability to actually commit to a relationship if she is able to move from one guy to the next so fast. I think there's a big difference between a girl who sleeps with 20 men in 2 years and one who is in 20 relationships in 2 years. Having random one night stands is fine if that's what you want to do. Most guys would love to be able to do this too and some do. If a girl is single then she can sleep with whomever she likes. If I started seeing a girl who has slept around a lot I might be a little more cautious in getting to know her but it wouldn't stop me from evaluating her as gf material based on her other facets. I take much greater issue with girls who 'dress' like sluts. Us guys have been raised in a society where slutty behavior is often normal and short skirts/low cut tops/high heels or %^&* me boots are considered the realm of loose women and prostitutes. Girls can wear whatever they like but they can't blame other people for judging their personality based on their attire because part of the whole package of first impressions. I think i'd be less inclined to date a girl who looked like they slept around a lot than a girl who actually HAD slept around a lot (assuming of course she isn''t a serial dater and I can be confident enough that she would cease this habit while we were together).
Author Mangomonkey Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 Im kinda agreeing with muse on the topic and some other people. Its nothing wrong with sleeping around. Honestly its not. The problem comes from morales and STDs. I cannot tell you how many women Ive met who hated themselves cause they slept with some jerk and how scarred they were from their own choices. Me judging them about what they did won't help them solve the problem. I rather just leave it alone. And STDs alone is good enough reason not to sleep around. Many people will contract an STD in their life. I rather not be with someone with someone who is more likely to give me an STD than someone who is. And i know that a girl who slept with 1 man can have a std just like the girl who slept with 20 but who would you risk your chances with? honestly. but back to the subject The past dont matter. Its way people handle it that do
refurb Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 In related news: Different people have different desires and opinions. THANK YOU!!! It's just like all those "Do girls like guys who..." or "Do guys find XXX attractive?" The answer is MAYBE. There are guys and girls who find partners with limited sexual history very attractive and there are girls and guys who aren't looking for that. The answer? Find someone with whom you share values! RF
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