RetroFan00 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 (edited) Okay, so I'm having another problem. I apologize for the overload. Almost 2 weeks ago, I typed and sent an angry email to my boyfriend. I typed it because he hadn't answered my calls nor my texts for a few days. On the third day, he called me and told me that he was feeling down; which is why he hadn't contacted me. I told him that I had written the angry email, but he told me to forget about it. He even forgave me for having typed it. I'm unsure if he either has or hasn't read it but, as I mentioned, I typed it almost two weeks ago, and about two days after I typed and sent that email, I also typed and sent and email basically apologizing and telling him that I shouldn't have typed the email, and that it was immature of me to have done so. I also mentioned that I made assumptions, and when I did, I made an ass out of myself, and didn't know what the hell was rambling about. At the end of the angry email, I told him that he could unfriend (although I truly didn't mean it) me on Facebook if he chooses to, but he was on Facebook last night and still hasn't unfriended me. We spent time together last weekend. I asked him if he had read the angry email, and he told me that he still hadn't. Also, I mentioned that I do love him, but if we can go past this then it'll be cool. But should he want to end the relationship, I won't dispute it. Impulsive emails aren't smart to send; especially when you have no idea what could be going on-on another person's end as to why they haven't contacted you nor responded to your calls and texts. However, considering the fact that I sent that angry email almost 2 weeks ago, he forgave me before having read it, and then I sent another email apologizing for having sent it, would it make sense for him to get mad at me about it now? Edited May 17, 2011 by RetroFan00
Nexus One Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 (edited) However, considering the fact that I sent that angry email almost 2 weeks ago, he forgave me before having read it, and then I sent another email apologizing for having sent it, would it make sense for him to get mad at me about it now? It kind of depends what you said in the e-mail. If you did what the following guy's girlfriend did, well...then it doesn't bode well for you. This one is epic though: http://bit.ly/ghfax Edited May 17, 2011 by Nexus One
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I doubt he's mad, but the "I'm so sorry, I'm such a moron and if you want to leave me, I'd understand but I really love you" approach is probably doing more harm than the e-mail. You're basically telling him he has all the authority to make all the decisions about your relationship and you'll just accept it like a chastened child. Yeah, you made a mistake that wasn't cool, but you're human and you've apologized. Acting like a doormat and continuing to bring it up repeatedly is probably causing more harm to your relationship than the e-mail did or could have. Just something to think about.
Author RetroFan00 Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 I doubt he's mad, but the "I'm so sorry, I'm such a moron and if you want to leave me, I'd understand but I really love you" approach is probably doing more harm than the e-mail. You're basically telling him he has all the authority to make all the decisions about your relationship and you'll just accept it like a chastened child. Yeah, you made a mistake that wasn't cool, but you're human and you've apologized. Acting like a doormat and continuing to bring it up repeatedly is probably causing more harm to your relationship than the e-mail did or could have. Just something to think about. I think I need more than Loveshack.org. I've never been in a relationship before, and can honestly say that I'm inexperienced compared to so many others my age (early 20s). I guess you can say that I've been sheltered; so I've never truly mingled. Nor have I ever been through certain trials and tribulations in relationships in order to go about ending a relationship in which is toxic. I feel as if I'm blind and can't distinguish behavior in which is wrong, and behavior in which is respectful as well as disrespectful. I know he isn't the only man on the face of this earth, but it's hard for me to just let go. As I mentioned, this is something deeper and I need to seek help on the outside as well.
allina Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I'm not sure how serious the relationship is but ignoring your SO because you're feeling down is not ok. I would understand if he communicated to you that he's been down and needed some time to sort his stuff out, but to ignore your gf for days is not ok. In the future, don't over react, just wait for him THEN communicate to him why his actions are not ok. For now, count it as a learning experience, we've all acted foolishly before.
FrostFire Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I think I need more than Loveshack.org. I've never been in a relationship before, and can honestly say that I'm inexperienced compared to so many others my age (early 20s). I guess you can say that I've been sheltered; so I've never truly mingled. Nor have I ever been through certain trials and tribulations in relationships in order to go about ending a relationship in which is toxic. I feel as if I'm blind and can't distinguish behavior in which is wrong, and behavior in which is respectful as well as disrespectful. I know he isn't the only man on the face of this earth, but it's hard for me to just let go. As I mentioned, this is something deeper and I need to seek help on the outside as well. Wow, kudos to you for realizing this so soon on your own. It speaks millions in terms of how mature you actually are. You will meet a guy one of these days and you'll just know you were meant for each other when it does happen. Until then work on yourself by seeking this outside help and you will be one amazing companion, friend, and lover to that special someone.
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