Timbo22 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 My ex left me 4 months ago, the 1st 2 months were very hard being blindsided hurts so much. It started getting better as I started hanging out with old friends and working out everyday. Then i found out she was seeing someone else about a month ago. That put me back to square one again. Not long after that I ran into her and her drunk friend downtown (She became a hardcore partier after she left me) she ran up hugged me and kissed me. She told me to meet her for lunch the next day so I did. My hopes were high because of last night. She then told me at lunch that she was drunk and didnt mean anything by that. She then said "We will probably get back together just not right now." Of course she put me on the back-burner incase her new guy doesn't workout. Well that was it I was done after that I couldnt take it anymore. I deleted her from facebook that day and funny I recieved a text from her later that night saying "Sorry for being a bitch :(" A week went by and I met a amazing girl who was literally to good to be true she was beautiful, best body I have ever seen. I danced with her and her friend all night and ended up shacking up with her the next night. Well I guess one of her friends wanted me to so they both literally started fighing over me and one of them spread lies about what I had said about the other. She didnt believe me because it was one of her best friends now they both hate me. When I didnt do nothing wrong lol... Anyway I was on my way to feelin happy and good again. It was 14 days NC, and she tried adding me on FB? I just simply deleted it...I wondered why but w.e.... Well that brings me to today, Im feeling pretty ****ty I just started thinking about memorial day coming up and I fair we always went to. We had such an amazing time around last yr at her parents cottage. I literally broke down cus it meant alot to me. Memories are now flooding my head again and I feel like I cannot stop it. It kills me again that she is seeing someone else, Because we were together 3 yrs and she meant the world to me. I keep telling my self I dont deserve what she has done to me, but I am a good christian and we are suppose to forgive and that is just me. Im a good person and I seem to care too much about people. Thanks for reading, Input and feedback is greatly appreciated.
KrisT Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I just think this last drama with these 2 new chicks has given you a set back. I've gone through it too. Each time I get out of a recent relationship I find myself thinking about exs. Usually my thoughts during these set backs are is the newest boy drama because I should be with him(ex) and the heavens are sending me signs. Then I remember all the reasons why I'm not with these other guys. I know its hard but keep it NC. You don't want to be anyone's back up plan. Don't short change yourself.
vegasmistake Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Hey bud, cheer up! We have all been there so you are not alone. My advice is to bury your head in something positive. Go work out. Go out with some of your friends. Make new friends at the bar! Anything to get your mind off this. Just keep on with the NC and I'm sure you will pull through. On your next run in with her, you will have grown so much and when she says something like "We will prob get back together", you will be able to say I don't think that will happen, but thanks anyways. And you will be able to say that with no hesitation. Trust me.
guitarxkid Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 It sucks man I know, its the worst feeling when you think about them with someone else. I advise you to keep it NC. I know from experience that even after several weeks talking to your ex can put you exactly right back to where you started, or even worse. I'm trying to stay without contact too and its hard. As someone else said, eventually you'll be able to say "I don't think that'll happen" the next time she says something like that. I really look forward to that day for me, because I'm almost positive that when my ex is done with her new guy she'll come running to me and I'm not going to give in to her again.
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