ECuellar Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Ok me and my gf of one and a half years broke up. I have given everything to this girl. I have always been there for her for anything she desires. According to other people she doesn't deserve me because the way I treat and the way she treats me. She likes to go out and have fun, I have no problem with that because I like the same. But if you have read my other post, I wrote down that she cheated once. I didn't forgive her but gave her a test to see if she has changed and to see if she's worth it. Now today I found a fb status to one of our friends that thanks to him she found the most amazing person in the world. I asked her about it she said OMG leave it alone and she said its no one. Well i dont believe her. I told her that im not going to put up with it that I have always been good to her and that this isn't write. So I told her ima delete her off my fb and told her to delete my number. After i said that she started saying no that she doesn't want to loose me and all that. I just told her I had enough. But now i feel bad like empty inside and i just want to forget about her and move on. But its hard, she has been my first real love and longest relationship. So its the first time i got my heartbroken. So any help on helping forget or ways to help me move on?
Desensitized Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Ok me and my gf of one and a half years broke up. I have given everything to this girl. I have always been there for her for anything she desires. According to other people she doesn't deserve me because the way I treat and the way she treats me. She likes to go out and have fun, I have no problem with that because I like the same. But if you have read my other post, I wrote down that she cheated once. I didn't forgive her but gave her a test to see if she has changed and to see if she's worth it. Now today I found a fb status to one of our friends that thanks to him she found the most amazing person in the world. I asked her about it she said OMG leave it alone and she said its no one. Well i dont believe her. I told her that im not going to put up with it that I have always been good to her and that this isn't write. So I told her ima delete her off my fb and told her to delete my number. After i said that she started saying no that she doesn't want to loose me and all that. I just told her I had enough. But now i feel bad like empty inside and i just want to forget about her and move on. But its hard, she has been my first real love and longest relationship. So its the first time i got my heartbroken. So any help on helping forget or ways to help me move on? Proceed to NC and focus on improving yourself. I've been working out a lot since me and my ex-fiancee split, and I am finally able to see my abs showing . What does this do? It draws attention from women and it even drew attention from my ex-fiancee. Best revenge is improving yourself in every aspect. She'll look back at how you treated her and she will regret losing you. Best of luck. And instead of moping around, get out there and focus on self-improvement!
GaelicSoul Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 You did very well. Give yourself a pat on the back I have got my heartbroken too many times by the same girl. Listen man, No more taking her crap, you gave her a chance and she blew it. What happens to some guys, is they become too blinded by love and ignore red flags there GF may put up. She cheated on you, and u gave her a chance...She doesnt respect you or herself. You deserve better than that. We all do. Do not look back, go into No Contact and after a few months you will feel better. I dont think you have heard the last from her, as she may be shocked you had the balls the break up with her.. Good for you, im proud of the way you handled yourself. Talk to us if you need anything.
RareBreed Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Sounds like since she cheated, you have trust issues. Trust plays a MAJOR part in a relationship. IMO, you cant have the right kinda love without it. I say you're doing good by setting her free. Take some time apart & do you. If it's really meant to be, trust me, you'll know.
Author ECuellar Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 She keeps messaging me saying its my fault that its over because i deleted her off my fb and all that. I just told her that not to turn this around against me and she had nothing to say. Also one thing i asked her who was the most amazing person that she met and she just goes around the question not giving me a straight answer.
getsback Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Well for starters, good for you! Its good that you know you are worth more then this kind of behavier. You know, I always think a healthy relationship that lasts has to be built on 100% honesty and trust. She has broke both these rules and therefore you can do better. That's the most important thing to remember when trying to move on. Also, be firm with your decision in your own head. Make sure its what you want and there is no going back. Everytime you start to feel weak and like you miss her, just remind yourself that she cheated once and that means she will most likely do it again. No women or man deserves to be put through that. And it means she dosnt respect you. The first thing to do is break off all contact with her. Don't e-mail her, text her, call her etc. Avoid places you know she will be. Cut her out of your life completely. This is the hard part and is the hardest thing to do. But everytime you feel upset, post on this forum and people will help you through it. Remember its tough but in time you will feel great and be glad you did it. Good luck
Desensitized Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 She keeps messaging me saying its my fault that its over because i deleted her off my fb and all that. I just told her that not to turn this around against me and she had nothing to say. Also one thing i asked her who was the most amazing person that she met and she just goes around the question not giving me a straight answer. There's no reasoning with women like that. They blame the other person for all of their insecurities because they don't want to feel guilty. Quit playing the bullsh*t games and move on.
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