temporaryvisa Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 So I'm having some trouble. Since 2008 I have been very single. I've been on TONS of dates. I've tried online, blind dates, through friends, etc. It hasn't worked out -- at all! This is most everyone's verdict: I'm too outgoing, explosive, energetic, enthusiastic. I'm pretty sure this translates into being ANNOYING. But this is my personality I don't know what to do! Get some kind of personality change???
denise_xo Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Read up on active listening skills and try practicing them.
cerridwen Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 (edited) So I'm having some trouble. Since 2008 I have been very single. I've been on TONS of dates. I've tried online, blind dates, through friends, etc. It hasn't worked out -- at all! This is most everyone's verdict: I'm too outgoing, explosive, energetic, enthusiastic. I'm pretty sure this translates into being ANNOYING. But this is my personality I don't know what to do! Get some kind of personality change??? You don't need a personality TRANSPLANT, just perhaps some fine tuning to your people skills. Identify what's putting people off. Do you have a good friend who can give honest feedback? "Too enthusiastic" is vague. "Explosive"? Interesting. Perhaps you're hyperactive and loud? Do you monopolize conversations and are a poor listener? If so, Denise had good advice active listening. Gather more information then set about making small adjustments so people don't feel exhausted by you. If you stall out trying to think of how to change specific negatives, post them and perhaps we can give ideas. Edited May 18, 2011 by cerridwen
MistaDynamic Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Not true the human being is born unconditioned. Personality comes from choice. You choose to behave in a certain way. Most people's personality comes from habit.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 I have a friend who's like you. She's reasonably attractive, not great looking, but is able to at least get guys to go out with her. Problem is she has an annoying personality, just non-stop talking and @ss kissing. Net result is that she's now in her mid-30s and still single even though she's been trying to get married since her mid-20s. She's toned it down a bit but is now battling the uphill battle of getting old in addition to the personality thing.
oldguy Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 If I found someone who loves me, I'm sure there are PoF out there for everyone, ha ha.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 It's a big step in the right direction that you are recognizing that you are not "perfect" and could improve some things about your manner. As long as you continue to take that to heart and don't fault others around you for not being just there to serve and accomodate you it will occur what it is that you can do to mature into a more love-worthy person.
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