sun_moon Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I am going through so many feelings right now that I dont even know where to start. I read one of the threads titles without going in and reading them because I felt like I already know this torment and torture that is in it...like " I feel bipolar some days" I have been doing NC off an on for weeks but now am going NC for good (and its been only 3 days) but really I dont want contact, it so painful especially when you know your going to get mouth vomit from the other end. I'm just curious...from personal experience from others, do you find out EVER if the rebound is over, whats it like, do they give a damn? No I am not wanting to get back with him, I want the satisfaction of knowing he was an idiot for rebounding and that he is going to be in pain when I will (hopefully) be better. Obviously, my feelings are all consuming, and I realize I havent let go, but logically I do not see myself back with him EVER. I am just curious...one day when I will stop caring...will I even know he's not with her anymore, etc?
NYBlue Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 You will find out eventually, and yes it will end quickly. Rebounds are people burring what they really feel, distracting themselves. You should feel good that you're being honest with yourself and feeling what you are. You're working though it and you will become a better person for honoring your feelings. You will be in a better place faster, although it doesn't seem like it. Enjoy the pain, the more you do the sweeter the next guy will be. Really, try to enjoy and fully experience this pain as bad as it sounds. The more you feel this for what it is and don't church it up, the more you will appreciate your next relationship. Think of it as a bank...the more you honor/save your feelings now the more love you can withdraw in the future. Remember, what makes humans different from an animal is our ability to reflect and project. Any ol' animal came have sex....take the high road and become a better human.
vegasmistake Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 It's gonna take time. Just work on making you better. Build that self esteem up and realize that you need to work on yourself right now. You need to get to a point where you can deal with rebounds and the ex being with someone else. After that, the sky is the limit.
Author sun_moon Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 NYBlue, Yes, I am definitely too much in my head and feelings and I am trying my best to work on myself for coping. I was incredibly down this morning but by the evening I had to head to my swimming class, and I actually made a milestone improvement and it felt soooooo great to accomplish that, I hope I have more moments like this, I'm still feeling the high from it, also my body aches lol. Yes, I know what he is doing is unhealthy, I'm just sad he disrespected me and our past relationship by jumping to someone else, I feel belittled and un special. I cant wait till all those negative feelings go away.
ironmanpower Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Gotta agree. I've been on NC for 27 days and I'm feeling better. The hole in my soul has healed and when I'm dating new girls, I no longer compare them to my ex which is good. Don't worry about your ex rebound. It would be over. Go focus on yourself and do what you enjoy doing. If you feel that you can't live without your ex, think about the time before you know her.
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