justagirrl Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I'm an all-star Cheerleading coach and one of the girls I coach with was talking about joining this gym in the town that we work in. He goes to that gym, so I told her that (she doesn't know the problems i'm having with him and i didn't really want to explain it)...she was like ask him how he likes it! Do you wanna do a 1 day free trial with me? And I said I would let her know... Me and him were texting yesterday and we were having a good conversation...so I asked him "Do you still go to that gym?" and he was like "No, Fitzone." And I was like "Oh okay, I'm not interested in going there you know I already go to Retro, I was just gonna go in with her and do the trial. Did you not like it?" And he was like "Nooo, it sucks. Fitzone is better. and um, you live like 20 minutes away, go to a gym in your town? lol weirdo." That's what he said to me. So I was like "Who are youu calling a weirdo?" and then he said "U"........I was like, "Take that back, that's really rude of you to say to me." No response. Nothing. It just ended there. I've never been to the gym in my life...and she wanted to know if it's any good. I could have asked my other friend I know who goes there...but I figured why not ask him since we're talking right now. I'm so mad at myself for even talking to him. After I came to his rescue the other night when he needed help. I just feel stupid. I spend so much time being upset over him. Was that a bad move on my part? I mean..I don't get it.
Gisele Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 What a douchebag. I really, really hope you just stop talking to this guy. he doesn't deserve your time! From the sounds of it he has a big ego and likes to feed it by interpreting the contact you initiate with him as 'she wants me so much...' 'Go to a gym in your own town, weirdo?' yeah, that's polite He could have just been making a stupid joke and it sounds worse over text, which could be why he didn't reply, but i don't know....it just seems so random and unnecessarily aggressive to me :/ you just asked him a question Don't contact him at all anymore. Read geegirl's 'looking for the clown' thread. Don't give him the satisfaction of him thinking you need him
Author justagirrl Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 he wasn't like this the entire first month we dated, he was so perfect I had to look for things that were wrong with him. I think I fell for him and just ignored any red flags because he "proved" the kind of person he was. I got played
geegirl Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 he wasn't like this the entire first month we dated, he was so perfect I had to look for things that were wrong with him. I think I fell for him and just ignored any red flags because he "proved" the kind of person he was. I got played When you're in the early stages of dating, everyone puts their best foot forward. Most times, you're not who you really are because you're trying to impress, get the person interested and win the prize. Once all that dies down and you are in his/her grasp, the realities of the person will start to emerge. And sometimes you are still so blinded by the initial impression that you will choose to ignore the red flags. He spoke to you with disdain. Either you get the hint or keep chasing after someone who has no respect for you.
Author justagirrl Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 When you're in the early stages of dating, everyone puts their best foot forward. Most times, you're not who you really are because you're trying to impress, get the person interested and win the prize. Once all that dies down and you are in his/her grasp, the realities of the person will start to emerge. And sometimes you are still so blinded by the initial impression that you will choose to ignore the red flags. He spoke to you with disdain. Either you get the hint or keep chasing after someone who has no respect for you. At this point I feel so disrespected that I'm just done. Even if he meant it in a joking way.....which I wouldn't know because we were texting...you still don't talk to people like that. F'd up.
Author justagirrl Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 What a douchebag. I really, really hope you just stop talking to this guy. he doesn't deserve your time! From the sounds of it he has a big ego and likes to feed it by interpreting the contact you initiate with him as 'she wants me so much...' 'Go to a gym in your own town, weirdo?' yeah, that's polite He could have just been making a stupid joke and it sounds worse over text, which could be why he didn't reply, but i don't know....it just seems so random and unnecessarily aggressive to me :/ you just asked him a question Don't contact him at all anymore. Read geegirl's 'looking for the clown' thread. Don't give him the satisfaction of him thinking you need him apparently he is a douchebag, it's unfortunate it took me this long to realize it
geegirl Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Don't beat yourself up. Sometimes it takes a few times to learn. The good thing is that you see him for who he is now and you follow through with keeping hin away from your life. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Author justagirrl Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 yup, and for once I can believe him and know he's not lying because it's who he truly is.
plasma Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I'm an all-star Cheerleading coach and one of the girls I coach with was talking about joining this gym in the town that we work in. He goes to that gym, so I told her that (she doesn't know the problems i'm having with him and i didn't really want to explain it)...she was like ask him how he likes it! Do you wanna do a 1 day free trial with me? And I said I would let her know... Me and him were texting yesterday and we were having a good conversation...so I asked him "Do you still go to that gym?" and he was like "No, Fitzone." And I was like "Oh okay, I'm not interested in going there you know I already go to Retro, I was just gonna go in with her and do the trial. Did you not like it?" And he was like "Nooo, it sucks. Fitzone is better. and um, you live like 20 minutes away, go to a gym in your town? lol weirdo." That's what he said to me. So I was like "Who are youu calling a weirdo?" and then he said "U"........I was like, "Take that back, that's really rude of you to say to me." No response. Nothing. It just ended there. I've never been to the gym in my life...and she wanted to know if it's any good. I could have asked my other friend I know who goes there...but I figured why not ask him since we're talking right now. I'm so mad at myself for even talking to him. After I came to his rescue the other night when he needed help. I just feel stupid. I spend so much time being upset over him. Was that a bad move on my part? I mean..I don't get it. i bet he realizes your manipulative ways and just givin you some ur own medicine, hence thats why your here:rolleyes:
Author justagirrl Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 i bet he realizes your manipulative ways and just givin you some ur own medicine, hence thats why your here:rolleyes: or he's just being a jerk, but both apply!
PelicanPete Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I dont know, if i were to play devils advocate, from a guys perspective it just sounds like he was trying to be silly. It was over text message so you probably took it the wrong way. When you got all serious over just being called a weirdo, he probably stopped replying because he wanted to avoid drama. There are much worse things that he could of called you, and if he had the intent of hurting you he probably would've used those insults instead.
Author justagirrl Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 I dont know, if i were to play devils advocate, from a guys perspective it just sounds like he was trying to be silly. It was over text message so you probably took it the wrong way. When you got all serious over just being called a weirdo, he probably stopped replying because he wanted to avoid drama. There are much worse things that he could of called you, and if he had the intent of hurting you he probably would've used those insults instead. You could be right... Ironically, a few hours later, my Blackberry decided to completely stop working...like won't even turn on. Good thing I have an extended warranty and the new one is coming in the mail soon...but maybe it's a sign that I really should just stop talking to him lol
Tayla Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 From a rather obscure perspective, Who in their right mind in a mature relations says " No...take that back!". Sorry but in the adult world its handled more respectfully despite the other persons commentary. As a famous comedian said- Its ninety percent by facial expression and body language and 10% what is really said, yet a person in "Text' only gets the 10% and blows it out of proportion. THink about it. Secondly most folks are INDEED that wonderful person that we met, we just like to water it down after awhile, yet given enough time we can someday say, yup they had those good qualities....Sometimes we allow the inappropriate comments to shade the goodness folks do have....He didnt change so much as the persons perspective of them did....
phillyfan Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I dont know, if i were to play devils advocate, from a guys perspective it just sounds like he was trying to be silly. It was over text message so you probably took it the wrong way. When you got all serious over just being called a weirdo, he probably stopped replying because he wanted to avoid drama. There are much worse things that he could of called you, and if he had the intent of hurting you he probably would've used those insults instead. Dude I hav to 100% agree wit this, I thought the guy was just tryin to be funny so ud like him more, like, teasin like u wud a little sista u r really fond of. He sounds nice enuf 2 me. Seems like classic men from mars women in venus typa situation 2 me. Give the dude a big break he ment no harm.
i made a mess Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I dont know, if i were to play devils advocate, from a guys perspective it just sounds like he was trying to be silly. It was over text message so you probably took it the wrong way. When you got all serious over just being called a weirdo, he probably stopped replying because he wanted to avoid drama. There are much worse things that he could of called you, and if he had the intent of hurting you he probably would've used those insults instead. I am a girl, however I was thinking the same thing. I personally have a male friend that I go to when I have a hunch that I could be totally misreading something. And he tells me that I'm just being a dramatic girl and reading what i want to out of it. When half the time it was never intended that way. Personally, it comes across as playful. A guy I dated for 3 years, who I'm still friends with to this day calls me a weirdo, or tells me I'm being an ass if I am having a "duh" moment but it's just all in fun. Given the situation you and your ex are in, you're probably a little more sensitive to what he says and may misinterpret something meant to be playful like that. (But I still don't like the way he treated you the other night and I certainly think that you need to just go NC for your own sanity)
Author justagirrl Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 Dude I hav to 100% agree wit this, I thought the guy was just tryin to be funny so ud like him more, like, teasin like u wud a little sista u r really fond of. He sounds nice enuf 2 me. Seems like classic men from mars women in venus typa situation 2 me. Give the dude a big break he ment no harm. only if u knew what kind of guy he turned into... if everything was fine and he said that, i would know it's a joke just because he's playful like that.....but there's tension, and I feel like he was being serious.
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