dispatch3d Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 dispatched, thanks for your effort to reply, but may I ask you if you even read the main thing? It is a surprise party and you are telling me to go talk to my girlfriend. About his concerns? Hmmm...? I didn't realize it was a suprise party obviously. In that case I would thank him for letting you know about potential problems, and that you will take his issues into consideration with the event date. Leave it at that. Don't discuss him helping organize the event. if he's thinking about going back to two of her good friends to make sure they come, just reassure him that they are attending regardless and it isn't necessary.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I don't know the entire background story but have you confirmed with your girlfriend that this guy is merely a " friend" and nothing more? I feel like there's something off about him; even if your girlfriend is polite to have interactions with him does not automatically make him a " friend", more of an acquaintance.
Author youaretheone Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 (edited) imo it is an incredibly bad idea to trust any woman with "just a friend" Please no offence but are you always this paranoid? Did you have a bad experience where you were cheated by a SO with a close friend? Then, I could understand your pessimism about this topic. Otherwise, I feel that your posts are nothing but destructive comments about my girlfriend cheating on me and I don't find anything that could help me in them. The discussion is not about if my gf is cheating on me or not but it is about this guy's overt behaviour and possible intentions. Apologies for my bluntness. This guy is a friend. Me, my gf and this guy: we all met each other at the same time, when we started the same uni last fall. We spent time together with groups of friends, where this guy was also included. This guy likes the photos of me and my girlfriend on Facebook. Why would he do that if he wanted my girlfriend? I don't feel and haven't felt any threats from his side but this move of him for the bday definitely triggered some mechanisms in me which say that I should keep an eye on him, just in case. Edited May 19, 2011 by youaretheone
dispatch3d Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Please no offence but are you always this paranoid? Did you have a bad experience where you were cheated by a SO with a close friend? Then, I could understand your pessimism about this topic. Otherwise, I feel that your posts are nothing but destructive comments about my girlfriend cheating on me and I don't find anything that could help me in them. The discussion is not about if my gf is cheating on me or not but it is about this guy's overt behaviour and possible intentions. Apologies for my bluntness. This guy is a friend. Me, my gf and this guy: we all met each other at the same time, when we started the same uni last fall. We spent time together with groups of friends, where this guy was also included. This guy likes the photos of me and my girlfriend on Facebook. Why would he do that if he wanted my girlfriend? I don't feel and haven't felt any threats from his side but this move of him for the bday definitely triggered some mechanisms in me which say that I should keep an eye on him, just in case. Chill out with the conspiracy theories. You'll wear yourself tired thinking about nothing. Not to say I don't do the same thing ;-)
ice salamander Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 To the OP, do you know why this friend is acting the way he is? It's because he knows you're too much of a wimp to do anything about it. It is pretty evident that he wants to spread your girlfriends' legs and cum all over her face. How the hell can you not see this? Props for not getting overtly jealous and controlling. I would've simply responded with, "Nah, It's cool bro everything is taken care of." Your long winded e-mail only shows how much of a wuss bag you are. It's like you're trying to compensate for your manliness by explaining yourself. However I do suspect that your girlfriend probably loves the attention. I don't doubt that she has this friend doing all of her homework and carrying her books. So It's either... A). She's an attention whore B). You're not man enough to set her straight C). All of the above Grow some balls and be a man. She's your girlfriend, act like it.
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