Marianis Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 well well.. 3 months ago i wrote about me being really depressed cause my bf that lives in Canada (i live in Mexico) broke up with me.. after i went there for a month to see him. Now im better but 2 weeks ago he started texting me and being on msn more and sending me emails and i dont understand why! .. if he was so cruel to me before!! :S im happy cause i really miss him.. and he told me he misses me and he is just waiting for my semester to be over to talk to me about us. I dont know what to do.. but i dont tell him i love him or any of my feelings cause i dont know if he is just playing with me or something. Or course im willing to try this relationship again but i dont know how it would be .. he cant come see me because he has to work all summer and i can not go cause i dont have any money and the visa that is required. My family is really mad at him and here is very important what falily things.. but i wanna be with him. I know that... what do you think about this!? .. what should i do!?
oldguy Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 You want to be with him but don't have money or a visa, he wants to be with you but has to work. So your options seem to be; your not going to see him, what is the real question?
Author Marianis Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 The thing is! .. haha that before i thought he wanted to be with me until i came back to Mexico after i went to see him like 4 months ago! .. we dated for 3 years and saw eachother every 6 months! .. mm.. all the sudden he changed and told me he wasnt sure about us.. i was beggin and beggin for him to change his mind.. until i realized it wasnt healthy for me... when i stoped .. he started sending me things and stuff! .. now i dont know if he wanna be with me again or if he is just playing .. or who knows!! .. i mean! .. i dont understand what he is trying to do .. guys are so confusing!! hahaha!!! .. what could he want!?? :S or he just wanna a friend!?! .. or someone to talk to?.. and then he askes me if i have someone else already .. and i dont cause i want to be with him! :S what is he playing!? ..
creighton0123 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 No contact. Move on. You want a boyfriend. He seems to enjoy the control of being chased. I'd get rid of him. He's not being confusing. He's kind of being a jack@$$.
Author Marianis Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 easy to say.. so difficult to do.. and the thing is that whatever he says or do has an effect on me.. and im sick of depending in someone in order to be happy. i was talking to him just now and he just says things like.."come to live here after you finish your degree" and for what?! .. and then he tells me to go see him and stuff.. but he knows i can not go! :S i wanna ask him what he wants ... but im scared of push him away... even tho.. he is making me want to just give up and go away.
heartcore Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 i've always been the dumpee in my relationships however they all wanted to get back together with me but I never take them back. I feel that if I ever have to get back together with a guy that I expect a change. if you fall into the same patterns he'll leave you again. he has alot of proving to do and I dont think just showing up online more and telling you that he misses you and want to see you is enough change for you to get back together with him. A second change is to be earned. He should be doing everything he can to get to you to convince you that he is committed.
Author Marianis Posted June 5, 2011 Author Posted June 5, 2011 thanks for the comments.. so i was doing super good! .. like i was focusing in more important things like my finals proyects at school and after that i was going to look for a job in the summer!! ... what happen next is that !! .. HE CAME HERE TO MEXICOOOOOOOO!!!.. HE CAME!! .. and i thought he came to talk to me and tell me how much he wanted me back. NO! .. he came to break up with me face to face...... WHAT THE HELL IS THAT?! .. he stayed for 2 weeks... he was mean with me sometimes.. but since i was so happy that he was here .. i just didnt care! .. hahaa.. i was the one that kissed him all the time.. hold his hand! .. hug him.. and sometimes i felt that he was hiding something.. he always kept his celphone.. ipod and computer around him .. and when i had the oportunity to chek i saw like porn web pages and "how to talk dirty to girls!" .. hahahhaa... he also was always was cheking his email... open it and closing it really fast.. when he left he said he wanted to keep in touch with me ... but! .. just being my friend and he said he is like that because of me.. (more than a year ago i kissed another guy.. twice... and i told him) so he said it wasnt just a mistake.. ufff!! ... COULD THAT BE POSIBLE?!.. could i change a great person in what he is now?!.. so mean or careless. or i dont know! .. is it really my fault? .. or he is like that just with me? .. i told him i wont talk to him again .. .. but i just wait until he miss me again or something ... i know its over.. i know this is not what i want... but i always remember what we lived when we got together every six months.. and i thouth that we were going to be together forever. should i talk to him or just try to forget about him... :S ... PS: when i told him i love him.. he always told me .. I LOVE YOU TO. what does that mean?!
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