Mixed28 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I don't think these people have been dumped by someone they were in love with or head over heels for. I mean my god when I got dumped by the girl I loved it was a nightmare. I would wake up hurt and go to bed hurt and on top of that I would always dream about us being together again only to wake up. It was one hellish experience. I have dumped someone and felt guilt but it DOES not compare to a broken heart. People will say "I can't stand the guilt of dumping someone so its better to be the dumpee" what a bunch of crap that tells me they haven't been heartbroken and generally wasn't that interested in the person if they were the dumpee. Whats your guys thoughts?
Kodo Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I'd rather be the dumper in my recent relationship. Because she obviously didn't care much about it and was able to jump ship and swim to shore before I even realised we were sinking. So being in her shoes must be easy with boys grovelling at your feet giving you all the validation you need and plenty of friends to help you ignore the guilt. Must be ****ing nice waking up each morning feeling releived that you removed a a burden and don't once look back at someone you told you absolutely loved the night before you left.
Kari Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I would also rather be the dumper. I would feel guilty for hurting someone, but as said above, you don't wake up feeling as if you've lost everything.
Desensitized Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Who said that they would rather be the dumpee? Sigh... some people just baffle me.
Sugarkane Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I 100% agree with you. i'd rather be the dumper. I was severely depressed and didn't even get a face to face conversation, let alone a meeting with my ex. I couldn't eat or sleep at first. Meanwhile I saw my ex 2 weeks after we brokeup and he was already with someone else, they looked really happy. He completely ignored me. He never once contacted me at all. meanwhile I had to be put on anti depressants. He was alreadt dating.
Author Mixed28 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 I would also rather be the dumper. I would feel guilty for hurting someone, but as said above, you don't wake up feeling as if you've lost everything. Exactly. When your dumper you feel like an @$$hole BUT it does not even compare to a broken heart. Also you don't go crazy trying to figure out why it didn't work out. Because like me and most dumpees we don't get an explanation. As a dumper you know why. When your the dumper you are saying you rather be single than be with the dumpee which says A LOT.
Sugarkane Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 You would want to be the dumpee? What about having depression? See how much fun that is lol
Desensitized Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I 100% agree with you. i'd rather be the dumper. I was severely depressed and didn't even get a face to face conversation, let alone a meeting with my ex. I couldn't eat or sleep at first. Meanwhile I saw my ex 2 weeks after we brokeup and he was already with someone else, they looked really happy. He completely ignored me. He never once contacted me at all. meanwhile I had to be put on anti depressants. He was alreadt dating. Don't get me wrong, in the case with my ex-fiancee and I, I was the dumper. It still hurt like a b*tch, but I probably wasn't hurting as bad as she was. I know the pain she endured by me doing that, and she knew that I didn't want to cancel our engagement - but it just had to be done.
Author Mixed28 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 I 100% agree with you. i'd rather be the dumper. I was severely depressed and didn't even get a face to face conversation, let alone a meeting with my ex. I couldn't eat or sleep at first. Meanwhile I saw my ex 2 weeks after we brokeup and he was already with someone else, they looked really happy. He completely ignored me. He never once contacted me at all. meanwhile I had to be put on anti depressants. He was alreadt dating. I totally understand I lost over 15lbs! Also my ex started seeing a new guy 2 weeks after our breakup then they got together 2 months after it hurt like hell. that was 6 months ago and I am a little upset because her she is with somebody and here I am with nobody. Not saying I need a partner to make me happy but still it sucks. Also it was my first relationship.
nana841121 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Love hurts, whether it's for the dumper or dumpee. Be honest with our feelings. If you don't love him/her, tell him/her honestly without any disguise. If lovers don't love anymore, let them go.
Strength of Heart Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I enjoy being the dumpee after awhile, I always come out learning more about myself and relationships than my exes do! My personal growth goes through the roof and I become a changed and better man by the time I'm fully recovered. Always worth the pain that comes along with being dumped.
Sugarkane Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Love hurts, whether it's for the dumper or dumpee. Be honest with our feelings. If you don't love him/her, tell him/her honestly without any disguise. If lovers don't love anymore, let them go. I'm sure it didn't hurt my ex at all. He dumped me by text and told me to get F***ed. I never heard from him ever again. I never cheated, liked his friends, wasn't clingy, never nagged. I was a good girlfriend, I don't get it.
Fufu Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 I prefer being a dumpee. Reason being, I really don't feel good breaking people heart.
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