strongr87 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 We Broke up and we didn't speak to each other, her mother has some paranoia that I'm spying on them which I never did... 3 months after the break up..we never spoke until on mothers day I told her "happy mothers day keep ur head up".. she is a single mom, but im not the father took in kids like my own.. ... ....The next day she replied and said "Thank You, whos this?"..I didn't tell her who i was but she already knew. She was kinda hintin that she was going alone to the store, and then i asked her if she wanted to meet there. she said yes... .. When i first got there i was extremely nervous, just thinking back we were in a 3 year relationship and everything just kinda fell apart in a day because ..others were telling her lies about me...we were friends for a year before we even got in a relationship.. I saw her and i walked upto her car we hugged...and it was ackward silence for just a 10 seconds..in my mind "why am i here? she broke my heart" ..after the 10 seconds, it just exploded like nothing ever happened and we hung out and laughed as she shopped, i then asked her to go grab a drink..so we proceeded ...we talked laughed, cried, hugged, and we both said we miss each other but her family did not approve of me...but she said that she would give up everything to have atleast a friendship with me because we were best friends...this happened friday...saturday...and sunday....now today monday im expecting her over...i don't want to open up and get my hopes up...but i told her shes the reason i left town, and shes the reason i want to be in town now...i don't know what to do...hours pass by as we just talk...time is not enough...tonight i hope she comes...what do you think...Will she give up the thoughts and lies of others pushing her away from me? or will i just be forever hidden....I will post again if she does come.
Trovador Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 If you are satisfied with being her best friend, go for it... if I started to tell you how many times my ex has come back with nothing more than offers of a great and best friendship for life! That's why I don't get all my panties in a bunch when she breaks her twisted concept of NC and reached out to me... Not saying that a second chance isn't possible in your case, just that you shouldn't keep high your expectations, because you clearly are not over her and you could easily end burnt all over...
Author strongr87 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 If you are satisfied with being her best friend, go for it... if I started to tell you how many times my ex has come back with nothing more than offers of a great and best friendship for life! That's why I don't get all my panties in a bunch when she breaks her twisted concept of NC and reached out to me... Not saying that a second chance isn't possible in your case, just that you shouldn't keep high your expectations, because you clearly are not over her and you could easily end burnt all over... Definately i do understand what your saying...its definately a case of "not being over her" ..because i faked myself believing that i was over her... right now well 2 hours ago she stopped by and said hi, and we both talked, she has to lie to her mother where she is going just to come....(backstory) we lived together but then her mother moved in with us and it started going down hill....i worked from 8 to 5 and i was a commuter so i had long hours...and her mother would always get her away around the time i got home promising only running errands for 30 minutes...and her mother wouldn't bring her home till later...her mother im not sure why but she never liked me im not sure if its because her marriage failed and was alone and unemployed...i just didn't understand... .... .She just left right now...we had fun just talking and laughing reminicing of how great it was...how we miss it...we havn't talked of whats going on and i don't want to bring anything up because according to my friends its the happiest they seen me in 3 months...i was dating during that time but never found anyone that i really "clicked" with and its happening right now i talk to her of things i used to do to get distracted, and she said " there is no point in saying anything because it pretty much seems we did the same"...she is on her way home right now to drop groceries off and said she will try her hardest to come back...if that didn't happen that she would text me when her mother went to bed...and that i could go there and hang out and watch a movie...take note she is 27..but shes been through so much with her ex marriage...and its like we found each other and it just happened...her entire family is very controllive about her and she listens because its her family and she cry's to me saying she wish she never did...how does she get over the fact of her family controlling her...i worked hard to take care of her and the kids...and she knows that but because of jeleousy or maybe fear of her mother being alone her mother makes up things to keep her away..i don't know anymore..man i wish i wouldn't get my panties in a bunch...but i hope she comes back.
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