WillSingForFood Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Im just curious how many people here would get revenge on their ex if they had the opportunity. It could be anything. Damage their car like the Carrie Underwood song. Hurt their reputation Tell their future girlfriends/lovers about how poorly they treated you Wreck future relationships. Especially if they were with the person who they left you for. Hook up with their friend/family members. Call the police on them if they were a felon. It's childish, yes. But if you could hurt the person who hurt you the most, would you? Have you?
NicoleM Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Yes please! I would knock out all of his windows in his car and break into his apartment and trash it and then when I saw him I would knee him between the legs and say that is what you get for hurting my feelings jerk! Now of course this would never happen since it is totally illegal but maybe writing his number on a bathroom stall saying for a good time call......
Kari Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 No, because then I would be stooping to there level. Revenge may feel great at first, but then it just makes you feel low. I'm better then that, I will not sink down!
Desensitized Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 (edited) Im just curious how many people here would get revenge on their ex if they had the opportunity. It could be anything. Damage their car like the Carrie Underwood song. Hurt their reputation Tell their future girlfriends/lovers about how poorly they treated you Wreck future relationships. Especially if they were with the person who they left you for. Hook up with their friend/family members. Call the police on them if they were a felon. It's childish, yes. But if you could hurt the person who hurt you the most, would you? Have you? Yes, I have gotten revenge on my ex and now everyone knows she's a slut. Do I feel bad? Meh, not really. I have no sympathy for girls that play games with me and make me feel like I'm their "one and only" when in reality, there have been dozens of other guys that received the same thing. I'm usually not one for revenge, but when someone plays with my emotions, that's when I can get really cold. Hence, my name, Desensitized. Edited May 17, 2011 by Desensitized
KrisT Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 No I could not. I've considered it once or twice. I agree w/ Kari about not stooping to their level. Also I feel I've learned something about myself, relationships, and men after each of my break ups. I could not imagine allowing revenge to take away from what I've learned. Good thread.
otherfish Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 No, I wouldnt. Id rather give her a hug and tell her how much I really loved her.
Sugarkane Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 After my ex betrayed me and poisoned everyone against me, I'd totally want to do it. He certainly damaged my reputation. He played victim and told everyone everything he did to me, is what I had done to him. When in reality I hadn't at all.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 No. I refuse to surrender my dignity too. Also, I've been around long enough to know that my feelings are temporary.
1437 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 @crestfallen, do you think all ur feelings are temporary?
Desensitized Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 When I get revenge, I do it in such a subtle way that they don't even know that it hit them. In essence, I don't even stoop to their level, never will. It's a domino effect, really - as soon as I knock down the first domino, I don't have to do anything else after that. Best way to get revenge, in my opinion . I'm the type of guy that usually feels bad if I go out of my way to make someone's life miserable, so this way of getting revenge is perfect for me. My conscious is guilt free.
plasma Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 When I get revenge, I do it in such a subtle way that they don't even know that it hit them. In essence, I don't even stoop to their level, never will. It's a domino effect, really - as soon as I knock down the first domino, I don't have to do anything else after that. Best way to get revenge, in my opinion . I'm the type of guy that usually feels bad if I go out of my way to make someone's life miserable, so this way of getting revenge is perfect for me. My conscious is guilt free. I like this guy ^^^^
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 @crestfallen, do you think all ur feelings are temporary? The feelings related to loss, definitely. I'm not saying I don't have triggers, or even crappy dreams still, but I know it's not permanent and I don't allow my feelings to sweep me along for very long. I'm in control. But I'm also quite far along. And quite appreciative, now, of having learned this valuable life lesson. Puts all future disappointments in perspective.
collegeguy_24 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I did get revenge on Jen by putting her full name on this site. But to be fair, it was right after the truth of everything she had lied and done to me came out, and I was extremely emotional. I even tried to fix it afterwards, but to no avail. I apologized to her when she found out and I mean it, it was a childish and immature move on my part. Now though, I like to think the best revenge is living well. For me, that includes graduating college and getting into grad school: That includes buying as close to a brand new car as possible, and with the amount of money I have earned so far, its looking like a reality. I have a job and earn everything I have right now. I can commit to a relationship. I have no risk of catching an STD. Her: She is still in for her bachlors degree. She drives an old mercury sable, and its crap as she doesn't clean it much. Her family pays for everything, she doesn't even work. Most of her relationships are FWBs with no real attachment. and finally: with her pattern with men and how quickly she goes through them, she has a high risk of catching an STD. So looking at the two, who's the real winner in this?
plasma Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I did get revenge on Jen by putting her full name on this site. But to be fair, it was right after the truth of everything she had lied and done to me came out, and I was extremely emotional. I even tried to fix it afterwards, but to no avail. I apologized to her when she found out and I mean it, it was a childish and immature move on my part. Now though, I like to think the best revenge is living well. For me, that includes graduating college and getting into grad school: That includes buying as close to a brand new car as possible, and with the amount of money I have earned so far, its looking like a reality. I have a job and earn everything I have right now. I can commit to a relationship. I have no risk of catching an STD. Her: She is still in for her bachlors degree. She drives an old mercury sable, and its crap as she doesn't clean it much. Her family pays for everything, she doesn't even work. Most of her relationships are FWBs with no real attachment. and finally: with her pattern with men and how quickly she goes through them, she has a high risk of catching an STD. So looking at the two, who's the real winner in this? silly boy you, never try and undermine a woman in this dept, she has already won.
collegeguy_24 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 silly boy you, never try and undermine a woman in this dept, she has already won. I have no idea what you just said.
AmericanHoney Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 It is funny you mention this thread. I actually thought about getting some sort of revenge but in the end I thought you know what?? He is not worth it!
nessaaa Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I got **** on my ex that could ruin his rep and have all his boys laughing at him and girls wont even look at him. Hahaha but im not spiteful he told me to keep his secret to myself so I will..... even tho he said he loved me but lied and put a knife through my heart. Id rather physically hurt him, I just want to slap him one time and run.
plasma Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I have no idea what you just said. excatly my point, a woman womans support/social network is much much broader and deeper then a guys in most scenarios, 9 times out of 10 guys LOSE this game !
collegeguy_24 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 what game are you talking about? and her social network is made up of exes and her mom.
Art_Critic Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 "Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves"
Strength of Heart Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 excatly my point, a woman womans support/social network is much much broader and deeper then a guys in most scenarios, 9 times out of 10 guys LOSE this game ! I really don't get what your saying with this game stuff, thats not how it works man lol. I have a bigger support network than my ex does by far, does she still win? Does that make me the winner? No, no it doesn't. No point in getting revenge on the ex, stooping down to their level will destroy any dignity you have.
EgoJoe Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 She's not even officially my ex yet, but she is ya know? I have thought about revenge but being spiteful is immature and unworldly. If you truly love someone and you want them to be happy it doesn't matter if thats with you or not. It sucks and people play dumb stupid mind games. But, the high road is for your consciense and personal growth. I say this only 'cus I need to remind myself constantly that I am not that douchebag guy who puts stuff on exgf.com, heh.
Lilmisus Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Wow. I was just thinking about this too I have been trying to take the high road since the beginning of the breakup..for the most part. Apparently me even talking about others about the breakup with him was enough of a way to say "f you!" to him. My mom told me though what a few people have said..being truly happy is the biggest revenge that you can give someone. I've been trying to go by that, and for the most part it works! Not only is it a good revenge tactic, it's a great way to find out more about yourself and to be a better person. But regardless, one of my closest friends gave me the ultimate revenge that I could give my ex. Not so much him, but the chick that screwed our relationship over. My friend and my ex are pretty good friends. He's always asking about her and her recent breakup from her boyfriend of 4 years, and they're always talking and joking around. She has zero interest in him, and I know without a doubt that she would never do anything to hurt me, but when I told her today that his new girlfriend made their relationship Facebook official, she said that she could break them up if she wanted to. When I asked how, she said that all she'd have to do was get a few drinks in both of them and make out with him. Something, I know he'd be all for, since my friend is pretty great looking and he thinks highly of her. She said she could even do it tonight if she chose to, since he invited her to the strip club I am extremely tempted to take her up on this offer. She wouldn't start anything more with him, I know that, since I trust her not to do anything to hurt me (which I said it wouldn't do, it would just make me love her more). It would just feel good to get revenge on the girl who caused all my pain and distress these past couple of months. Plus, she hates her, so she's totally for it. But..the high road..is the best road..sadly. I'm just leaving this in my friend's hands for right now.
Desensitized Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Wow. I was just thinking about this too I have been trying to take the high road since the beginning of the breakup..for the most part. Apparently me even talking about others about the breakup with him was enough of a way to say "f you!" to him. My mom told me though what a few people have said..being truly happy is the biggest revenge that you can give someone. I've been trying to go by that, and for the most part it works! Not only is it a good revenge tactic, it's a great way to find out more about yourself and to be a better person. But regardless, one of my closest friends gave me the ultimate revenge that I could give my ex. Not so much him, but the chick that screwed our relationship over. My friend and my ex are pretty good friends. He's always asking about her and her recent breakup from her boyfriend of 4 years, and they're always talking and joking around. She has zero interest in him, and I know without a doubt that she would never do anything to hurt me, but when I told her today that his new girlfriend made their relationship Facebook official, she said that she could break them up if she wanted to. When I asked how, she said that all she'd have to do was get a few drinks in both of them and make out with him. Something, I know he'd be all for, since my friend is pretty great looking and he thinks highly of her. She said she could even do it tonight if she chose to, since he invited her to the strip club I am extremely tempted to take her up on this offer. She wouldn't start anything more with him, I know that, since I trust her not to do anything to hurt me (which I said it wouldn't do, it would just make me love her more). It would just feel good to get revenge on the girl who caused all my pain and distress these past couple of months. Plus, she hates her, so she's totally for it. But..the high road..is the best road..sadly. I'm just leaving this in my friend's hands for right now. Wow. That is extremely subtle and devious of you - I think I'm in love... XD
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