suckered Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 We have been together for 4 months. We usually see each other twice a week. Once on a week night and once on Sat night where I sleep over and then we sometimes spend a bit of Sunday together. He never asks to see me more than that. He is not really busy, we both work 9-5pm... When I ask to see him, he always says yes. But if I don't ask, he seems to prefer twice a week. I don't really mind this as I am an introvert and need my own space, I just worry that this means that something is off in our relationship. In between those 2 nights, we don't communicate a whole lot. We exchange maybe 5-6 texts every day but that's about it. We had the relationship talk, and he says that he is serious about me and wants this to be in a long term relationship...and that he is 100% committed. When we are together, he is super affectionate and does little things for me (cooks for me, brings me socks in the middle of the night if he feels my feet are cold etc). Do you think it's weird that he doesn't ask to see me more often?
Pfiend101 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Twice a week sounds good to me. I would feel smothered if I saw my girlfriend much more then that. We should each have our own lives that don't revolve around each other 24/7. I think everything's fine. I wouldn't worry.
Kari Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Some couples like to have space apart, as long as he wants to see you there shouldn't be a problem. If you feel as if you should spend some more time together, bring it up to him, it won't hurt to communicate about it. He could also assume that you only like seeing each other twice a week, which is more reason to communicate.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 If it doesn't bother you, as you claim, then why are you worried that it means anything? Don't compare your relationship to others; every relationship is different.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Someone once told me to ask myself "Are my needs being met?" If the answer is yes, then there is no problem. I prefer 2-3 times a week and couldn't handle every day thing.
Timmeh Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I only see my girlfriend 1-2 times a week. I have to do all of the reaching out, she never invites me to do things. I have to do all of the planning, and initiate all of the contact. Consider yourself lucky.
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