AmericanHoney Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 I have to agree NC forever is the way to go. I sometimes want to call him up and maybe even drive by his house and see what he is doing but it is quite obvious he has moved on so it is time for me to do the same. It pains me everyday thinking about him with another girl and it pains me thinking why did he leave me for another girl but it is better I find out the kind of person he is now rather than further down the road and then you get hurt. NC forever unless you happen to see them out and about then maybe you can say something but it will be weird I can tell you that right now.
betterdeal Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 (edited) Good advice, plasma. Better to have loved and lost than spend the of your life with the psycho! Okay, that's a bit mean, but it's a funny poster I saw in a shop in town the other day. Made me smirk. You're right about not judging yourself against them. First, you are not them. Second, you don't know the entirety of their existence. Third, you are you, you have your own life. You shared some of it with them and now you've moved on and will find life much more enjoyable when you live your live for your sake. I was reminded of this last night after hot yoga. I'm a 37 year old man. I am overweight, have arthritis in one big toe, scars on my wrists and foot, pockmarks on my face, stretchmarks on my back and hips, rosacea (redness of the face) and I sweat a lot when I exercise. I'm not your typical yoga chick with the yoga hot pants, the clear injury-free skin and full mobility in all joints. After class I was sat in the cafe area cooling down. Two women from the class sat on the table next to mine. One started being passive aggressive, making pointed, thinly veiled disparaging remarks about me to her friend. I thought to myself, why sit next to me if you don't like me? I also thought about what yoga classes must be like in India, where deodorant, shaving your armpits, hotpants and indeed women are in the minority. And yet that's where it all started and all the benefits are peace of mind through meditation and exercise. So is yoga in India as unworthy as I am to this woman? I will probably never know. I hope she finds a way to not be upset by the presence of me. What I do know is that I did dancer's pose without a strap for the first time this week, that I bowed out of less of the class than I have ever done, I stretched and really used my deep tissue (especially my rhomboids) like no other time, I lost some fat and gained some muscle, I felt cleansed and refreshed, and that I had learnt something. We all start from here. Not there. Edited May 20, 2011 by betterdeal
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