murah989 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 (edited) I recently had the pleasure of meeting someone online a few weeks ago. We've been on a few dates, connection is there blah blah blah... A couple of days ago we talked about when we were going to have sex for the first time. I had been dreading this talk for quite some time because of my recent diagnosis with genital warts. I have been having them periodically removed via cryo, but its still not totally gone. If you look hard enough, it is possible to see a few tiny bumps here and there. Not to mention if one were to feel my penis, you'd feel a rather large bump under the skin ( I'm not sure if this is a cyst due to cryo). Anyway, I broke the news to her thinking that she'd be alright with it. I had read a number of people who broke it to their dates and things turned out alright. The woman, although disappointed, was caring enough to say "Hey, I still like you, I won't leave". When I told her, it was like a kick to the face. According to her, she doesn't want to be in a relationship where she's going to worry about getting an STD ( Which I totally understand). "Sex is very important in a relationship, and I don't want my kids getting it from you" she said.... She still wants to hangout, but I've noticed her demeanor towards me has changed. It's as if sex was her primary goal =(. So now I feel as though this will be my curse forever. I'll have to settle with someone who, with much thought and deliberation, has to be desperate enough to be with me. I'm beside myself right now. Does who I am really not matter? Is what I can provide pale in comparison to some tiny bumps on my dick? Is there anything I can do?? Edited May 16, 2011 by murah989
AstroZombie138 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I Anyway, I broke the news to her thinking that she'd be alright with it. I had read a number of people who broke it to their dates and things turned out alright. The woman, although disappointed, was caring enough to say "Hey, I still like you, I won't leave". When I told her, it was like a kick to the face. According to her, she doesn't want to be in a relationship where she's going to worry about getting an STD ( Which I totally understand). "Sex is very important in a relationship, and I don't want my kids getting it from you" she said.... She still wants to hangout, but I've noticed her demeanor towards me has changed. It's as if sex was her primary goal =(. Not sure about the sex being her primary goal. She's probably sticking around so she won't feel like such a dick. I don't know anything about genital warts but I'd try to educate her as much as possible. Can't you still have sex with a condom?
Author murah989 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 From what I've heard/read. As long as there is no direct skin to skin contact you should be ok. The issue with having sex during an outbreak, is that you don't know if maybe you have a wart in a region thats not covered by the condom I.E. the pubic region. I can only explain so much to this girl...but if she feels afraid about sleeping with me, I could lecture and lecture, but it won't change how she feels.
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