mgoblue Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I just need a bit of advice here.... I've been on a date with this woman three times, we get along great and really seem to click. We kissed at the end of the second date, and spent the next week with tons of texts and planning for our next date. Saturday we went out, and had a great dinner. We decided to go see a live band at a bar afterwards, and were having a great time there, too. All of a sudden, a guy walked up and tapped her on the shoulder. She stepped away for a few minutes, and came back crying, as it was her ex. They broke up a year ago, but still talk every few months or so, and she told me he basically cussed her out for being with me. At the end of the night, we parted ways. She was still shook up. She told me to call her the next day, and that she liked me. I called her Sunday, but she never returned my call. I texted her in a friendly manner this morning, but she didn't return my text either. I don't really get it. Do you guys think I should just move on as her ex apparently still has a big impact on her? Or should I just wait for her to approach me again? This sucks! Thanks!
Jazzari Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I just need a bit of advice here.... I've been on a date with this woman three times, we get along great and really seem to click. We kissed at the end of the second date, and spent the next week with tons of texts and planning for our next date. Saturday we went out, and had a great dinner. We decided to go see a live band at a bar afterwards, and were having a great time there, too. All of a sudden, a guy walked up and tapped her on the shoulder. She stepped away for a few minutes, and came back crying, as it was her ex. They broke up a year ago, but still talk every few months or so, and she told me he basically cussed her out for being with me. At the end of the night, we parted ways. She was still shook up. She told me to call her the next day, and that she liked me. I called her Sunday, but she never returned my call. I texted her in a friendly manner this morning, but she didn't return my text either. I don't really get it. Do you guys think I should just move on as her ex apparently still has a big impact on her? Or should I just wait for her to approach me again? This sucks! Thanks! That makes zero sense to me. Why would he cuss her out if they broke up a year ago and only talk every few months? And if she was over him, it wouldn't make her cry. She is still obviously involved with her ex (emotionally at the very least) so starting a relationship with her may be risky. The fact that she hasn't returned your calls is a bad sign. Sounds like he got jealous and she ran back to him. Hard to say for sure though.
Author mgoblue Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 Thanks a lot for your insight, I was thinking the same thing. I might just move on and let her go, it sucks too, because we really did click.
collegeguy_24 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I agree, things don't exactly add up How much do you know about this girl, her ex, and how they broke up? It could be that she was the one who left him, as that would explain why he cussed her out, as the guy could still be angry at her for what she did. Thats assuming she is to blame, with not enough information its hard to tell. Also, like Jazzari said, obviously she is still emotionally tied to him, and getting into a relationship with that hanging over your head can cause a lot of problems. Trust me, I am speaking from personal experience on this. I suggest you give her a couple days alone, no contact. Then say, this Friday call her or text her again and see if she responds. I do suggest though, that if your serious about wanting to continue and develop a relationship with her, that you get the full facts about the break up and the ex.
Author mgoblue Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 All I know is when she came back, she said "he's an a** and is crazy", and that they dated for 6 years, so they have history. I'll leave her alone and see what happens. Thanks!
Jazzari Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 One other possibility is that he won't leave her alone. And that could be what caused her to be upset and cry. He may be threatening her in some way. Either threatening her directly. Or telling her that he will get physical with you or perhaps tell you something about her if she doesn't stop seeing you.
Author mgoblue Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 You could be right, I always avoid the ex conversations while on dates, but she brought up how much her ex bothers her on our second date. Either way, I'm going to leave her alone and see if she contacts me, and keep my options open! Thanks again!
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