colliejoanie Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 And its not that I'm regretting it...because he really isn't in an emotional state to be dating. His divorce is just final and his job is crazy. But I'm wondering if there's a way for me to say "once you get your stuff together, lets give 'er a go again". Because he's all I think about. I ended it abruptly because I was mad. But once I cooled down I wrote him a note telling him that I did care for him and that I just need more from a relationship. (he was blowing me off, and we weren't seeing or talking to each other like in the beginning) I told him to call me whenever he wanted, as I was regretting not actually talking to him about breaking up. (when we broke up, he was shocked.....but admitted to not being emotionally ready to dive into a relationship - which I said was fine, but I wasn't emotionally ready to be friends with benefits). We've texted each other a few times over the past month. His birthday was this weekend and he drunk texted me. Then I got a text this morning from him saying he'd gotten a new phone #. I'm heading out of town for two weeks and am trying to decide if I should tell him. It's like, I want him to know what I'm doing, so he knows I'm not looking to date other people. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone has ever waited around for a guy to get over emotional issues. Did you tell him you'd wait? Did you ask him if he wanted you to wait? Should I just move on and expect him to contact me if he feels he's ready???
plasma Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 how long togther? living togther? age ? ( round about # if your paranoid lol )
Author colliejoanie Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 We were only together 4 months. Which is why I'm having a hard time with my feelings.....why do I care so much about this??? We barely know each other? He's 40 and I'm 35. No, definitely not living together. I met him 6 months after he had separated from his ex wife. She had already moved out of state when we met. Things were great in the beginning, but he slowly started pulling away. Part of me wishes I had been more patient, but then the other part says "you weren't happy. Why continue a relationship where your needs are not being met?".
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