suzukilover Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Hi.... I text my ex asking her to give me some closure because her last text indicated that she need more time to think about her decision. (That she was not sure about her leaving) I think is not fair that I need to wait for her. I know.. I know.. I dont have too. I really want to get back with her but is already 2 month with this waiting game. Broke my 4th day of no contact with this text last night. My text: YOU NEED TO LET ME KNOW YOUR DECISION. I WILL ACCEPT IF I NEED TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE, BUT YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH ME. PLEASE... TELL ME ARE YOU COMING BACK OR NOT? Guess what... she never text me back. WHY GUYS? I will think will be easy to tell someone: "Fu@$ off and move on budy"!" "Stop texting me..." "I dont want to be with you!" But nothing from her. Can someone explain... (sorry... english is my second language)
collegeguy_24 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 She doesn't want to seem like the bad guy, thats why she didn't respond. No matter what she would have said, it would make her look like the bad guy, and she knows it.
Billie The Puppet Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Dude she is done, not making a decision she has already checked out and with a message in text all caps like that perhaps she feels any answer she gives you , you will then inturn question her answer. It's easier for her to remain cold and not answer be it a **** off, I've met someone else or, I fell out of love with you etc then it is to give you such an answer. Not answering should be enough of an answer for you to move on should it not? She doesn't care enough to answer.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 (edited) I was at the same cross roads with my ex as you are now. However when I asked him if what he wanted was for me to move on he would say "no". He said he was confused and needed time and wanted to slowly work things out. Yet we hardly would ever talk and when we saw eachother nothing was the same. We were just "friends".. It was driving me nuts! I felt horrible that everything was diffrent.. He seemed to want to try for a second chance but only with words. He wasn't showing me any results or seem to put in much effort. At this point I was going emotionally insane. You can't move on when you feel like you have another shot so all you need to do is just hold on as tight as you can while they take you through the ride. Its not fair to us. You do the waiting when ultimatly she can turn around and say sorry your not what I want. All the waiting was for nothing and not only are you still not healing but feel like a fool for waiting. I called it off and told him I was done waiting. It was tough and it was hard for me to accept, even though I had called it off but I had to start somewhere. I did go back and forth a while not sure of what I wanted. At this point I seriously would do the best move, which is NC... Sorry it sucks we have all been there and we are all here for you! Edited May 16, 2011 by Jdw_Icequeen
betterdeal Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Why not phone her up and ask, if it's that important?
Eddie Edirol Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 She'll never close the door, because she feels guilty about it. She needs you as that safety net to talk to. She knows that if you close the door she cant lean on you for friendship. So YOU have to close the door. You actually have to text her "DO NOT EVER TALK TO ME AGAIN, GOODBYE". She has probably moved on anyway, and she wont get back with you, so you have nothing to lose. It would be extremely hard to lose, but you need to know now, from here, not her, that she isnt going to give your relationship another chance. She just told you that so she wouldnt have to deal with the confrontation.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 The question is not WHY you don't contact and ask her.. Its do you really need her to actually say to you what she is already showing you?? Your looking into a fire, you can feel its heat but yet you have to touch it to see if it will burn you.. Its simple she may be confused yes, but she has made it very obvious your not what she wants at this point in time. If you have to get burnt to realize that. Then do what you have to do.
phillyfan Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Dude weve all been there, u just want a txt frm her, thats all, she is a good girl, she knows sendin u nothin will send a clearer message n stop u holdin on for any hope, etc. She alredy ended it, she dont have 2 reply to anythin u send her really, i think u need 2 leave this one alone. Sorry dude theres anotha great girl out there 4 u.
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