mittens22 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 does anyone know what bored his wife is on this has to be the most shocking story i have ever read i mean come on his best friend
TMCM Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 does anyone know what bored his wife is on this has to be the most shocking story i have ever read i mean come on his best friend Marriage Builders. Though I don't know under what handle she posts over there.
GG2W Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 From the way I read it, you asked your wife, who has had emotional problems in the past (i.e. Insecure) to open up your marriage. In essence you asked her to be a hot wife. She took some time to think it over and finally agreed. Did you ever consider what your request did for her insecurity. This is no guess - She only agreed to do it because her insecurity caused her to be afraid that she was in danger of losing you. Then you add a rule that she can only do it with a stranger. Think about it, you want your insecure wife to have an affair with a stranger. And now you are upset, that in the place of a stranger she had her laison with your best friend, somebody she thought she could trust. I have a lot of experience with cuckies and hot wifes, and I am sure that meatballsmom is right on, you tipped off your friend. Just be grateful that your friend couldn't get it up, instead of her meeting up with a well hung, experienced bull, who I am sure would have rung her bell. That is a story that I have seen repeated many times, shy, insecure wife has sex with a guy who knows what he is doing, and her insecurities fly out the window.
Author superpunk Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 Lol yeah I guess I should be glad that instead of sticking to our agreement she decided to get with my best friend. Are you high or just stupid? Look, I've already admitted it was a terrible idea. I deserve all the blame in the world for being dumb enough to suggest it. but after that it can't be on me. If she had stuck to the agreement, what could I be mad about? nothing. If I couldn't handle it, that would have been on me. But she didn't, she started a relationship with my friend and then tried to sleep with him, so i'll be damned if I sit here and let some moron talk like I should be happy it worked out this way. Give me a break.
GG2W Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I believe this is what the learned one classify as denial You say one thing and do another. You admit that it was your idea to open up the marriage, but refuse to take responsibility for your actions. You knew of her emotional insecure issues and still you chose on opening up your marriage.. Did you go down to the local bar and tell all of the male patrons that she has agreed to an open marriage is now available? No. Why not? Simple you were afraid that she might accidently meet a man who would rock her boat. So you chose to control the seduction of your wife by telling your best friend, who just happens to be suffering from ED The plain truth of the matter is you invited her to cuckold you by asking her to open up your marriage. You set her up, so now you can cry foul
Author superpunk Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 At this point I'm convinced you're either insane or just a troll. Either way no point in responding to you anymore.
John Michael Kane Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 You may have suggested it, but she selfishly and foolishly took the bait and used it to deceive you even more. If she was sane she would've probably divorced you or tried to see why you would make such a suggestion. Dump her and learn your lesson from this dysfunctional relationship.
SoleMate Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Sorry. I think you brought it on yourself......you had to understand the risk versus reward. Assuming your woman could just be about the sex is very naive, IMHO. All I can say is learn from this. Right. Actually this was a terrible idea from the getgo and this outcome was easy to foresee.
Bryanp Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 She could have said NO but she did not. She agreed to all of the rules and then proceeded to break everyone of the rules. What is it that you want to do now? Do you think you will be able to mend this relationship or do you even want to? Have you reconnected intimately with your wife or is that out of the question? Deep down what do you really want? I wish you luck.
TMCM Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 (edited) Ok I found her side of the story on Marriage Builders forum. It appears that it was her H's so called BF who aggressively pursued her with different variations of the old line 'what he doesn't know won't hurt him' until she finally agreed. She makes no excuses for her choice as neither does superpunk. Both own their sh*t. She states though "My husband's idea was something he'd discussed with this friend before he even told me." Edited May 22, 2011 by TMCM eta
GG2W Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 TMCM - That last quote is very enlightening. That is what I suspected. I also would like to comment on the SO is responsible for her actions. Personally I have long lost count of my encounters with hot wives, wife watchers, open marriages, etc. First off understand that normy rules do not count, as they they have totally thrown out the rule book of a monogamous relationship. In most cases this involves the wife having sex outside of her marriage. They contend that by giving or getting their spouses permission that this is not cheating. Also understand that this is a hunger, almost as strong if not stronger than one needs to eat. Sadly there is a large percentage of spouses that do this with reluctance. And in almost every of these cases, the weaker spouse gives his or her permission just to keep peace in the family. Generally it is the threat of divorce that gets the reluctant spouse to sign on. I have known husbands that permit their wives to date, as to refuse them they know that this will lead to the break up of their marriage. By permitting her to date, he is able to keep his children and still have a sex life with her. Also most wives are up front with the fact that when their husbands initially presented them with the idea of an open marriage that they were totally against it. But the husband will persist year after year trying to push her towards it, until she finally gives in. The threat of divorce is real. I cannot tell you the number of times that I have heard a husband of a hot wife, and yes they sometimes are in the same room with us, tell his story of his first wife who would not participate, so this is his second marriage. The way the wives sometimes see it they don't want a divorce, he continues to tell her that this is something that he rearlly wants, and he has a history of divorcing his previous wife, so she knows that if she wants to keep the marriage intact she must buckle to his desires. superpunk - you might consider seeing an IC. I suspect that you probably will divorce your wife. And then sometime in the future you will remarry. After a few years into the marriage it is likely that the scenario of your first marriage will be replayed
eamherst14051 Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 the how's and why's can be debated all night long but the crux of the matter is why with a friend? To me it's simple, that was her way of getting back at Superpunk. She could not verbalize her feelings so she went out with a vengeance to strike back at you.
2long Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 Probably for the first time in about 5 years, I agree with everything that's being said 2 your wife over on marriagebuilders. I also see a very remorseful young lady there, wanting 2 recover her marriage 2 you. I saw nothing in either your or her posts that would suggest 2 me that either one of you is telling anything less than the truth. So, I would urge you 2 reconsider working with your wife on recovery, rather than living separately while you try 2 find yourselves, or some such. You need 2 be a team. You need 2 regroup and defend your marriage from the kinds of suggestions you made and the pressure she gave in 2 from your former best friend 2 have an affair. Addressing only you (I can't post on mb), I would also suggest you counsel with someone on your own 2 help you deal with your anger (trashing the OM's truck). Recognize this is a character trait of yours, it's not something you can blame on your W. -ol' 2long
dale_gribble Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Isn't what she had in mind regarded as "cuckolding."
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