child support issue or not?

[robkris8079]

Not sure if this is the right spot.

 

I got a divorce from my wife in 07. I was awarded custodial parent. The court was told our proposed visitation which is basically split 50/50. This didn't really stay the case as she moved out of state. But that is old news, she is back in the state and luckily for our daughter only one town over (about 5 miles). The decree stated her paying $95 a week and a third of daycare costs. I think the reasoning for her paying me even though I make slightly more, not much, is that I retained the home, provide the insurance, choose all the doctors, dentists, find the daycares etc. She didn't contest me getting custodial because at the time I don't think her mind was in the right spot.

 

Now I have always been good about the child support as has she pretty much. If she can't pay I don't make a fuss and she always gets what's back owed in a reasonable time. No big deal. Also when the daycare dropped after our daughter started kindergarten I informed her and told her the new lower amount. Now summer is here the daycare is obviously going back up and I just informed her that the support payment will go up slightly too. She said she can't pay more and that she doesn't know why she is paying at all since time is split. I didn't decide the amount the court did. I told her I won't argue about it and we can go back to the court. Now I'm unsure if this is worth it as it's only two months over the summer. Then it drops alot since 1st grade is full day and daycare is going to be half of what it was.

 

 

She brings up things I do like putting a new deck on my house and trips I take. None of which I ever told her about, damn facebook! She says I seem to have plenty of money. I don't, I borrow, use CC and have a loving girl friend who enjoys making our house a home. I'm broke and all of my money goes to my child. Hell I don't have anything to even eat in the house except cheerios's, fruits, yogurts and juice boxes! All the things my kid needs for lunch. I'm ok with this just hate to be told I have plenty of money when I struggle like everyone else.

 

I'll survive without this $20 a week I won't be getting. But seems it's more of principle and it really is $20 less for my kid.

 

I don't even know what I'm looking for as far as advice here. Just felt like writing and talking about my situation. It's on my mind and this forum has been the best place to let things out in the past years.

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[donnamaybe]

Let the courts decide. And how DARE she bring up things you are doing with YOUR hard earned money to make life better for ALL of you, your daughter included?! You have been the one to do all the major caretaking (good dad!) and provide the primary residence. Don't let your ex guilt you into thinking you should be getting less than the courts believe is fair and equitable. You don't have to argue about a thing. Since you are the custodial parent, the prosecuting attorney should be taking care of you during any proceeding. That's how they handle it in my state anyway. Hopefully it's the same in yours.

[robkris8079]

I want to just go back. Even if they say she has to pay less. Not sure why they would though. I provide an entire house on a nice neighborhood, half mile from her school. Her mom, who does do her best, is in a one bedroom of a multi family home. But this will be long, drawn out and by time it gets heard and ruled on our daughter will be back in school and the support would have gone down.

 

Also I don't even know how to get the process started. I'm doing online research today.

[robkris8079]

the more I look into this the less it's worth it. Currently she pays $130 a week. That is $95 and third of $110 week daycare. It actually comes to $131.66 but $130 is just easier. The daycare over the summer is $150 so it will be $145 week in child support. So difference of $15 week. A total of $120 spread over two months just doesn't seem like enough trouble to file a court paper and miss at least one day of work. Especially when come end of august the daycare will be $68. So I'm going to wait and see what she says when her new child support come august is $117. She never complains when I tell her our daughters cost of living has gone down. I didn't really think this was going to be as big of a deal. I just sent a text saying I set up the daycare for our daughter for over the summer and said it cost more, your new payment would be such and such. Oh well, guess this is why our marriage didn't work out. We just don't see things the same way.

[donnamaybe]

I just have to say here: I get $169 a month for a now 17 year old 5'10" boy. lol Would that it could be more. I wouldn't have to say no quite as often to requests involving money.

 

I agree that $60 a month for only two months would so not be worth fighting in court over.

[robkris8079]

Yup it's not worth it. Also in CT if the order doesn't change by 15% in either way they won't present it to the court at all. So even if they agree'd with me and it goes up to 145 from 130 it won't be presented to the court for a ruling as that is less then 15%. Then I'm just stuck in same position saying you owe X amount of money and her saying she isn't giving anymore then Y. Oh well, life goes on .