Author Kamille Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 I 100% agree with this, but that's a totally different discussion. And as you say, the contrary to popular believe implies we perceive ourselves as having that control and someone taking that away from us as invading our privacy or running our life, even if objectively they aren't taking that much away. My point still stands. I don't think I am running their lives for them or taking away their power to decide what is best for them. I am presenting them with an opportunity. (Note to self: never set up Jynxx) I think you are. If you weren't, why bother? It's more of a hunch than an investment. I have a hunch these two will hit it off. If I am proven wrong, I will happily come back here, tail between my legs, and admit defeat. There's no way it's going to be a disaster though. Like I said, at worse, they'll be friends. OP, I'd also like to add kudos to you for taking the time and energy to do this. It's something very few female friends have done for me in life, and I was single for many years. Hope it works out Thanks C! Like I said, I used to ask friends to set me up or introduce me to their single guy friends, so my take on this is very different than other posters here. and like I said, they've both told me they're ready to get back in the game and are both trying to figure out how to meet people. This is a social gathering around a common interest, so I figure that no matter what, we'll all have fun.
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 OP, I'd also like to add kudos to you for taking the time and energy to do this. It's something very few female friends have done for me in life, and I was single for many years. Hope it works out I second this. Once a friend of mine offered to set me up with a girl. She said she would get back to me about it...that was December 19, 2009. I never bothered talking about it after that.
Jynxx Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 (Note to self: never set up Jynxx) add to that "without his consent" I'm just gonna agree to disagree on this one and hope it ends well. Keep us posted, gl
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 December 19, a date that will live in infamy Haha. I actually remember that day because we had a major snowstorm that night and for the rest of the weekend (dumped some 3 feet of snow on us). I actually had to leave my car at work and catch a ride home with a coworker who had four wheel drive.
Author Kamille Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 I just remembered I forgot to update this thread. Here's what happened. I found out shortly before the dinner that she had started seeing someone seriously. We all still went out and had a good time, and he actually randomly told me she was really great and that he really liked her vibe. A few days later, we met up at another event where I introduced him to another friend (this time not playing matchmaker). They hit it off and are now dating. It's like a romance novel. My plans didn't work out, but everyone ended up with a match.
Thatguyintx Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Okay, Kamille, you are batting a good average at this point. I'll volunteer for your services!
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Now Kamille.. Maybe you could work some magic for Johan...
Author Kamille Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 (edited) Okay, Kamille, you are batting a good average at this point. I'll volunteer for your services! I didn't do anything! I just have great friends. The sociologist in me is thinking there might be some sort of class effect here. Something to study: why are my friends so keen on matching themselves up? Now Kamille.. Maybe you could work some magic for Johan... Yessss! All he has to do is come visit in Canada. Meanwhile, I have to scrounge up some new single friends. Ooh wait... I know exactly who I want to set him up with! She's one of my single friends who seriously shouldn't be single. I think the main issue is that she's a very reserved person behind an extroverted veneer. She has a great sense of humor, is beyond smart, and is goodlooking. Reminds you of anyone we know? Edited June 9, 2011 by Kamille
sunshinegirl Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Kamille, funny that things worked out differently than you had planned. I want to make a pitch for your original plan. My marriage is the result of exactly that kind of matchmaking by mutual friends of ours. I worked with the W, my husband worked with the H; they threw a BBQ so that we could meet each other. In our case, he knew it was a setup and I didn't. I felt no pressure at all (thought I was meeting a bunch of my coworker's SO's friends); he was smitten right away. It took me a little while to warm up to him, but we will be forever grateful to our friends for thinking that we might be a match. We probably would not have met without their intervention.
Author Kamille Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 Kamille, funny that things worked out differently than you had planned. I want to make a pitch for your original plan. My marriage is the result of exactly that kind of matchmaking by mutual friends of ours. I worked with the W, my husband worked with the H; they threw a BBQ so that we could meet each other. In our case, he knew it was a setup and I didn't. I felt no pressure at all (thought I was meeting a bunch of my coworker's SO's friends); he was smitten right away. It took me a little while to warm up to him, but we will be forever grateful to our friends for thinking that we might be a match. We probably would not have met without their intervention. I personally thought it was a great idea when I first thought of setting my friends up, especially since as far as I knew, they were both single and looking. As I recall saying earlier in the thread, I've met a lot of the guys I've dated through my social network, and I just like the idea of creating occasions where single people can meet. It beats on-line dating, doesn't it? And your story is a splendid happy one. I can't believe you didn't notice your husband straight away. From what I recall of the wedding pics, he's pretty handsome!
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