xpaperxcutx Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Lately, I've been spending more time hanging out with one of my best friends and her boyfriend. However, instead of being a third wheel, her boyfriend has also introduced his friend into the group, which evened out the whole girl to guy ratio. The funny thing is that the other guy's Asian as well, so when we all go out, we get mistaken for a couple. I'm not offended but it makes me wonder whether my best friend and her bf have ulterior motives (?). The guy's shy, first of all, and he's not really the kind I typically go for. But we do find alot of things in common, our background are very similar in regards to upbringing and we like the same kind of music ( which is actually quite amazing since I'm very picky when it comes to music). He's conservative but not so much that he won't try anything once ( the first time we all went out, he confessed it was also the first he's been to a club). And he just recently graduated from college. I can say he's the type of guy one can bring home to the 'rents. So, am I being paranoid or should I go with the flow? The guy could grow on me but I think I might have to make the initial moves if I want anything to happen.
ivalm Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Lately, I've been spending more time hanging out with one of my best friends and her boyfriend. However, instead of being a third wheel, her boyfriend has also introduced his friend into the group, which evened out the whole girl to guy ratio. The funny thing is that the other guy's Asian as well, so when we all go out, we get mistaken for a couple. I'm not offended but it makes me wonder whether my best friend and her bf have ulterior motives (?). The guy's shy, first of all, and he's not really the kind I typically go for. But we do find alot of things in common, our background are very similar in regards to upbringing and we like the same kind of music ( which is actually quite amazing since I'm very picky when it comes to music). He's conservative but not so much that he won't try anything once ( the first time we all went out, he confessed it was also the first he's been to a club). And he just recently graduated from college. I can say he's the type of guy one can bring home to the 'rents. So, am I being paranoid or should I go with the flow? The guy could grow on me but I think I might have to make the initial moves if I want anything to happen. So what if they are setting you up? If you like him then go with the flow, if not, I'm sure you have ways to make sure he/they know.
Kamille Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Too funny! I want to play matchmaker and you're wondering if your friends are setting you up. I agree with Ivalm. So what if they are? Ultimately the decision is yours. You certainly don't owe them anything. Live your life, get to know this guy, and if something comes of it, let it be because of what you feel, regardless of what other might think, matchmakers included .
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 Too funny! I want to play matchmaker and you're wondering if your friends are setting you up. I agree with Ivalm. So what if they are? Ultimately the decision is yours. You certainly don't owe them anything. Live your life, get to know this guy, and if something comes of it, let it be because of what you feel, regardless of what other might think, matchmakers included . Thanks for the heads up K. Of course. He is Asian after all. You are worried about an ulterior motive but you want to ask him out anyway? Why does the scheming bother you if you are already interested? Are you worried this is apart of some master plan by the master race to only pair Asians with Asians? Though I can be a very take charge person, I rather be pursued than the pursuee. I don't see any tell tale signs from him that he likes me in that way so doing any chasing right now would only make things awkward. Also, we're too different. I'm too radical and open as opposed to his conservative view, even though he's older than me. It's not a conspiracy to date another Asian but I'm one of those who date outside of their race. Not to mention my hesitancy stems from finding out he recently broken up with his girlfriend hence the dilemma. I'm not looking to be someone's rebound; I've had enough of those.
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