what do you think i should do

[RTJ]

Ok. Looking for a bit of feedback. Myself and this girl had known each other for years. We have loads of mutual friends. We both fancied each other but never knew. We both found ourselves single and she made it known so we began a relationship. It was brilliant but after a while i moved away with my company. We continued it and it remained great for a while. After a while though her attitude changed and she started to become distant, i began to chase, the more distant she got the more i chased (bad move I know). So anyway she phones one night and drops the bomb and ends it. I agree (wih her) and some contact remains but then none. So I did the disappearing act, not easy even when your away. After about 6 wks of NC and none from her we met out one night. We got on great and had a good time. I smsed the next day and suggested coffee which she happily accepted. Coffee went great and all the body language was good and obvious. Then I made the big mistake of telling her i was still into her. She talked about the break up and said she didn’t want to get back together. She said she didn’t want to commit, surely this would not be much of a problem with ldr. She said the spark was gone which I am not sure I believe following her interest shown towards me over our meetings. I then agreed with her about break up and said to forget about it, to get some of my dignity back! I have since gone NC and she has made no effort to contact me. Why can I not let this go, I am still hoping she will contact me. Should I put this in the coping section. What do you think? Im kicking myself for telling her i was still into her. Im p***d because this girl used to think the world of me and now seems to not care in any way. I think i screwed it up.

[oldguy]

It's always a kick in the ego to be the one who get dumped. Take the time to miss her, feel sorry for yourself, get angry then move on. That all all sounds so simple right.

"This to shall pass"