Chicago_Guy Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 What do most people do if they call a girl and she doesn't answer the phone? I think that I should leave a voice mail and indicate that I want to see her again and ask her to call me back. If she doesn't call me back, I will assume she either isn't interested or is an immature girl who is playing some kind of phone game. One of my friends say I should call two or three times, but I think this makes a guy look weak or desperate if he does this.
Kari Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 In my eyes there is only need for one call (or voice mail if no answer). If the person is interested, they will get back to you. If not, then it's best to move on. Two to three times would just be excessive and not needed.
Sabali Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Call once. Tell her who you are and to call you when she gets the message. If she doesn't call you back, she got the message. If you call again a second time, you didn't get the message.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Yeah, leaving a message is totally fine. I'd rather you leave a message than not. If you don't leave a message, I assume you plan to call me back.
welikeincrowds Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Welikeincrowds's Official Guide to the Fcking Answering Machine: 1. There are no rules. Each situation and each girl is different. Do as you would want someone else to do for you. 2. When you're leaving the message, especially when you first met someone, don't pull a . "Hi, this is ____, we met at _______, I'm calling to see if you're available on _____, give me a call, my number is __________." Treat it like a business call because that's all it is and needs to be. The goal is simply to let her know you've called and that you'd like her to call you back. The phone call, meanwhile, is simply to arrange a date. You'll have plenty of time to make her laugh or impress her when you're at the restaurant. 3. If you end up having a Costanza moment, press the # symbol. You'll usually get a message that will allow you to rerecord, or at the very least prevent the message from being sent. 4. Sometimes, perfectly wonderful girls do flaky phone stuff before a first date, because they're nervous or they don't remember the night before or whatever. In these cases it's really nothing personal, since she's still a stranger, and it's not a big deal to brush your shoulders off and put a little bit more pressure on to make it happen. It doesn't show neediness or weakness, it shows confidence and drive. If she's flaking on you after you've already met up, that's a different story.
orion1010 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Voicemails are completly acceptable and I would prefer a man leaving one if he calls instead of just hanging up and texting me later. A VM gets a call back from me. No vm might get a text. If no VM was left, I will asume you are calling back or I will just text you later. I will asume it was a call to just say hi. I will always repsond though. I won't play games. If she does not respond within 24 hours, then I wouldn't keep trying. I don't play the "3 day" rule. pointless to me.
Mrlonelyone Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 What welikeincrowds said. There are no rules. One woman wants you to "pursue her".... and so will act extra difficult if she's interested. :-/ Another woman will think you are desperate if you pursue too much. There just isnt any magic bullet... outside of the Manlicher that killed Kennedy. Sorry.
Cee Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Welikeincrowd's advice was excellent. I have little to add except to say it's better to leave a message rather than none at all. If I get a missed call alert, but no message, I assume it was an accidental call and don't call back.
loveshymanc Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I would say leave a mesage and then if you dont get a reply move on
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