NXS Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 It's been about four years since I had a proper contact with my children. My step-daughter is now in her mid 20s and my son is 19. I had a very good relationship with them after the divorce ten years ago but it gradually declined because of parental alienation and a whole lot of things that were going on. After 10 years of a battle I just gave up, couldn't take it any longer and couldn't stand how they were being reared by my XW. Now they want to have a relationship with me again but I don't know where to start. Has anyone been through this? Any pointers to help re-establishing a relationship?
Kari Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I haven't been through it, but being in there age range (20's) I may be able to give some help. They miss you, it's been years since they've been in contact. If anything, right now they are relieved to be talking to you again. It may be weird for them at first. Talking to you after not having contact in some time. Just ease into it, no need to come off to strong, you have plenty of time to rebuild the relationship. Ask them about there lives, what have they been doing? What has been going on since the last time you've seen them? Let them know how you've been and what is going on with you. You may have missed some events in there life, but it's worth being filled in. Is there any hobbies that they liked previously that they still do to this day? Invite them out to do something of interest, just go out and have a fun time. Make some new memories together.
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