welikeincrowds Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I don't know about either of you, but I've been a fan of hearts in skies for probably way longer. But, I digress, I think this is not the first time I've seen you two butt heads, SG. Er, with Erica I mean I think you just rub each other the wrong way, I don't know, maybe that's patronizing but I believe it. I don't pick up the accusatory vibe, I think she's just confused and wants to do the right thing. Revisiting a high school flame is not typically easy, I can say that **** from experience.
welikeincrowds Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 What? I am not what you would want? Heartbroken You are a master in making things about you, SACWA And that's the LAST off-topic comment I'll make.
Star Gazer Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 ...we've been talking through e-mail for the last 2 months though. I thought I read that he first contacted you one month ago. That's where I first came up with the month thing. First, do you really think that's an appropriate time to be sarcastic? Second, he may not have been complaining at me, but his actions more than show his unwillingness to comply with being in any form of relationship. I think that proves more than words, don't you? WTF. You can use sarcasm but no one else can?? Huh??? You're STILL not understanding me. YOU are the one complaining AT HIM about what he's not doing for you. HE is NOT complaining at YOU in the same way. YOU are taking ALL the fun out of this cute, new, fun, fledgling little romance you once had going.
Author EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 I don't know about either of you, but I've been a fan of hearts in skies for probably way longer. But, I digress, I think this is not the first time I've seen you two butt heads, SG. Er, with Erica I mean I think you just rub each other the wrong way, I don't know, maybe that's patronizing but I believe it. I don't pick up the accusatory vibe, I think she's just confused and wants to do the right thing. Revisiting a high school flame is not typically easy, I can say that **** from experience. Rub eachother the wrong way? That's to say the least. I like to leave it alone, by not posting in her threads, but she does like to sneak into mine once in awhile Which is great when her advice makes sense. I've basically said everything I could have said. I've already broken it off with him, so I don't understand what else needs to be done. I refuse to feel bad about how I reacted or handled this situation. I did everything to the best of my ability, and refuse to feel otherwise. That's not to say I don't appreciate all of the advice given! I wouldn't have been able to come to the conclusion I did without the awesome support I was given here!
Star Gazer Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 What? I am not what you would want? No surprise there. I don't know about either of you, but I've been a fan of hearts in skies for probably way longer. Is yours of a heart? I totally can't tell. It looks like some other shape, but not really a heart. I don't pick up the accusatory vibe, I think she's just confused and wants to do the right thing. Revisiting a high school flame is not typically easy, I can say that **** from experience. I didn't get the sense you were being patronizing, I think you're right. But I also get the sense that she expects him to put in a lot more work than is reasonable at this juncture. Regardless if they knew each other or dated way back in high school, they have to work with what they've got now. And it sounds like she's expecting more from him than is reasonable given the incredibly short period of time since they've reconnected - just IMO. But that's also because if someone expected that of me, I'd be put off. Again, different strokes for different folks. But you're right about revisiting a HS flame (if that's what he was, anyway)... BTDT, the fantasy dies, every time!
Author EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 I thought I read that he first contacted you one month ago. That's where I first came up with the month thing. WTF. You can use sarcasm but no one else can?? Huh??? You're STILL not understanding me. YOU are the one complaining AT HIM about what he's not doing for you. HE is NOT complaining at YOU in the same way. YOU are taking ALL the fun out of this cute, new, fun, fledgling little romance you once had going. Come on SG, I used sarcasm first? Let's take a minute to think about this.
welikeincrowds Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I just want to say, this thread really looks ridiculous with all this heated discussion, and also all of these colored heart-shaped objects all over the place. Okay, last off-topic comment, for real.
Star Gazer Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I've basically said everything I could have said. I've already broken it off with him, so I don't understand what else needs to be done. I refuse to feel bad about how I reacted or handled this situation. I did everything to the best of my ability, and refuse to feel otherwise. I've never understood this attitude after seeking advice. If you were so set on your course of action, a thread wouldn't be necessary. Hindsight is always 20/20, and you can only learn from mistakes - not being perfect. I guess in your eyes, there's nothing to learn from this.
Author EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 I just want to say, this thread really looks ridiculous with all this heated discussion, and also all of these colored heart-shaped objects all over the place. Okay, last off-topic comment, for real. If it makes you feel any better, i'm glad all these hearts are in one place in my thread!! I love hearts!! I've never understood this attitude after seeking advice. If you were so set on your course of action, a thread wouldn't be necessary. Hindsight is always 20/20, and you can only learn from mistakes - not being perfect. I guess in your eyes, there's nothing to learn from this. Oh my goodness. I really did say, repeatedly, that I had my heart set on one thing. After reading all of this great advice, i've decided on another action. Therefore, this thread was absolutely (and most gratefully) necessary. Also, if you really think i'm under the impression that there isn't anything to learn from this, then again I must say you didn't read the entire thread. In that case, I will have to (again) repeat the fact that before you make statements that appear ignorant to the general public, i'd highly suggest re-reading the facts. Thank you!
Star Gazer Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 So pleasant. Now I understand why he's dwindled off...
Author EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 So pleasant. Now I understand why he's dwindled off... Yes, just as i've wondered why many others have dwindled off with you also Let's not get personal, it's not a good look for us.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Yes, just as i've wondered why many others have dwindled off with you also Let's not get personal, it's not a good look for us. Erica, I was just about to post the same thing
Star Gazer Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Yes, just as i've wondered why many others have dwindled off with you also Let's not get personal, it's not a good look for us. This isn't personal at all. I merely understand why he's avoided you, is all. As for me, I haven't had a guy dwindle in a long, long time. Again, I'm not the person with this repeated problem. You are.
Star Gazer Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 You're right, WLIC. Back to the OP: How do I un-screw myself? I'm afraid here, you can't.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 OK, time to leave :lmao::lmao: Even if you don't like me, I think that you are pretty cool
Author EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 This isn't personal at all. I merely understand why he's avoided you, is all. As for me, I haven't had a guy dwindle in a long, long time. Again, I'm not the person with this repeated problem. You are. Again, i'm not going to make this personal. However, if you'd like to continue this conversation in private, I could most definitely point out exactly what I mean. Unless you'd like to do this in public. But I think we'd both prefer not to.
Star Gazer Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Again, i'm not going to make this personal. However, if you'd like to continue this conversation in private, I could most definitely point out exactly what I mean. Unless you'd like to do this in public. But I think we'd both prefer not to. I have no interest in engaging you or ES in private. Go ahead. Tell me all the men who have repeatedly dwindled on me. Even one, prior to, say, 2007. I'd love to hear it.
Author EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 I have no interest in engaging you or ES in private. Go ahead. Tell me all the men who have repeatedly dwindled on me. Even one, prior to, say, 2007. I'd love to hear it. The temptation is very strong. However, i'm going to be an adult about this (which may be a new concept to some), and leave it alone. Thank you, SG, for participating in this thread.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I have no interest in engaging you or ES in private. Go ahead. Tell me all the men who have repeatedly dwindled on me. Even one, prior to, say, 2007. I'd love to hear it. Erica, don't! She is baiting you so that she can report you.
betterdeal Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Morning all There's been a lot of posts over the last 6 hours - more than I'd like to read - so can I have a quick recap, please? What has happened in that time, Erica? Have you and he spoken or anything?
Star Gazer Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 The temptation is very strong. However, i'm going to be an adult about this (which may be a new concept to some), and leave it alone. Thank you, SG, for participating in this thread. The temptation is non-existent because you have nothing to share. You're so transparent, Erica.
Star Gazer Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Morning all There's been a lot of posts over the last 6 hours - more than I'd like to read - so can I have a quick recap, please? What has happened in that time, Erica? Have you and he spoken or anything? Long story short: She has decided to end it.
welikeincrowds Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Morning all There's been a lot of posts over the last 6 hours - more than I'd like to read - so can I have a quick recap, please? What has happened in that time, Erica? Have you and he spoken or anything? :lmao: I can't decide whether to tell you to read it, or to tell you not to. She ended it with him. The thread was basically finished a while ago.
Author EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 Morning all There's been a lot of posts over the last 6 hours - more than I'd like to read - so can I have a quick recap, please? What has happened in that time, Erica? Have you and he spoken or anything? Long story short, he has once again pushed me to the side. I have decided to break it off with him. Unfortunately, this is just another lesson to learn. The temptation is non-existent because you have nothing to share. You're so transparent, Erica. Oh please. Come on SG. You act like you have zero faults of your own. I know what I did in this instance. I've fully admitted, acknowledged, and understood that. The fact that you are completely unaware of that, only goes to show your complete ignorance to the matter. I'm so sorry you are lacking in some aspect of your life, so much so that you need to harp on other people who have openly shared their stories and admissions to the general public. I don't hate you, I have sympathy for you. I only wish you the best in your quest to become a better person.
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