casper011 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Hi. Well me and my best friend have been friends for close to 4 going on 5 years and lately in these last couple of months she and I have not been as close as we once were. I am not really sure why this is, but I think it is because she has started a FWB with someone, and it has become a big part of her life, but she will not talk about it with me, however she does talk about it with another friend. Now I don't want to seem jealous and I am not offended that she will not talk to me about it, but i don't want it to break us apart either. So what could I do to help our relationship survive and stay strong?
TaraMaiden Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Really? I'm not sure. I was friends - and I mean, inseparably - with someone I knew in my younger days. I'm talking 20 years or more. From schooldays until marriage and kids - and beyond....Chaz and me, we were like bookends. We shared absolutely everything. Nothing was taboo, no holds barred, we always shared everything and were completely honest and up-front - even with the decisions the other made, that we didn't like or agree with. I tell you, there wasn't anything on this planet - in this universe - that was ever gonna break us apart - no man, no distance, no job, no lifestyle no nuthin'. I haven't spoken to her in I would say.... 15 years. Why? No particular reason. we just.... drifted. It happens.
cerridwen Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 (edited) Hi. Well me and my best friend have been friends for close to 4 going on 5 years and lately in these last couple of months she and I have not been as close as we once were. I am not really sure why this is, but I think it is because she has started a FWB with someone, and it has become a big part of her life, but she will not talk about it with me, however she does talk about it with another friend. Now I don't want to seem jealous and I am not offended that she will not talk to me about it, but i don't want it to break us apart either. So what could I do to help our relationship survive and stay strong? You'll need to nurture other parts of the relationship. . You'll need to reach out more and possibly put in more effort than she. It could be temporary or it could be permanent. I'm not sure if you want friendship on such terms. That's for you to decide. I've had friendships become one-sided for a bit, only to have the friend reinvest when life circumstances allowed. I'm glad I didn't cut them off. Why don't you try to talk about her FWB? Perhaps she's under the impression you're not interested or will be judgmental. If you in fact DON'T like her situation, but want to remain friends, avoid the topic all together. Edited May 16, 2011 by cerridwen
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