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3 weeks ago i broke up with my partner of 2 years after a drunken argument about her jelousy, (no violence from her this time latinos are fiery) i called and i told her i loved her and was sorry, we called text and emailed for a couple of days, she said she just needed time to clear her head, within 6 days of our split she hooked up with her ex from 7 years ago, who she hadnt seen, she happened to bumpo into his aunty in the shops and his aunty asked her for her number and gave it to him. he too had just been in a divorce, my ex still wants me to stay in touch, wants to text and also invited me to her work, she still has some of my things but keeps putting off droping them back at my place. we talked about our split and why she had started seeing her ex so soon, she says she still cared for him, i asked her did she love him, she replied, i care for him, i told her then that it was a bad idea we kept in touch, she started to cry and hugged and wouldnt let go, saying sorry for hurting me, and this was the saddest day of her life can she email me after work, she will drop my stuff off, again she postponed it, saying she needed space, do you think she wants to get back is she on a rebound or is she playing with my head:confused:

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You just broke up and she's seeing an ex, it could be a rebound, but seeing as you told her it can also be to get at you at the same time.

 

At this point I would consider going full NC. Do not stay in touch while she is with another man, It's best to move on right now.

 

After NC she may realize that she has made a mistake, if not, you will have started to move on.

 

Hope all goes well.

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tried that but she seems to text every couple of days saying she will drop off my stuff, then we get into a dialog and she then closes the conversation down,

the one problem i have is that whist we were together she would get jelous about my past ie my last relationship which ended months before we met and she too was single for a while, she told me she had a rule regarding exs, dont keep intouch theres no point trying to reconnect with something has died. then bingo he phones, and shes off but at the same time emailing me welling me she loves me very much????

we were supposed to be moving in together in june

 

so confused, plus if its the guy i think it is they were together for 2.5 years and that ended 7 years ago, she hasnt seen him since, and im sure the reason the split was because he continualy chaeted on her.

i do lover her very much, i just dont want to see her get hurt

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Tell her to just drop your stuff off in a box when she has time. (on the doorstep)

 

Then resume NC. Part of nc is not responding to text messages. If you keep responding you will dwell on the relationship. You cannot move on if you are still in contact.

 

She can't have you both. You two broke up, I understand that you care about her. Your well being needs to be put first. Focus on yourself for a change.

 

If hes cheated on her numerous times in the past, it will be another lesson for her to learn on her own.

 

Resume no contact, until he is out of the picture and if she wants another go.

 

If she doesn't want to try again, then you will already be in the process of moving on.

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shall give it a go :rolleyes:

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any way i live in australia and in 2 weeks time im off to Las vegas and Seattle with work. for 3 weeks that should give her time to dwell and maybe get her wondering what im doing whilst im away.

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well its offical, either my ex is a nut case or just plane crazy.

 

tonight she came over and dropped off whats left of my stuff, came in for coffee, (dont forget im trying to win her back) we chat, nothing deep hows she doing, is she happy etc, yes shes happy at the moment? just trying to get her head straight. we chat some more thn she starts to cry, we hug, she tells me that she loved me, that i tought her how to live and love again, that the sex was amazing,:cool: how everyday was the best, and so sorry we split up, shes crying im holding her hand, then she changes tact, i need to find some one who is younger, shes 5 years older than me. she will always love me, and will miss me i touch her face wiping away the tears we kiss, just closed mouth, we then have a slow dance to the music, as she is crying, telling me to take care of myself, if i email her she will always reply, were now kissing and dancing hugging etc etc, she is still crying i pull away, and we talk some more, she tells me i am way to good looking for her, bull****e shes beautiful and amazing. by this time its late, i walk her to the door we fully kiss, told her i loved her she tells me to take care etc we kiss again at the car have a joke about how she felt like she would almost have a heart attack when we made love and she will realy miss a certain part of my body. we kiss goodbye.

 

now this is the twist, after i sat down and reflected on the 2 hrs she was here, one phrase jumped into my head, when i asked if she was happy she dropped the bombshell she might be a step mum soon, took a while for that to sink in

 

so the time frame is

break up 25 days ago

chat about things 21 days ago she needs space

she bumps into her exes aunty 18 days ago

hooks up with her ex (from 7 years back) 18-15 days ago

we chat all the way through to 3 days ago about needing space she loves me and just needs to clear her head

she tells me she is seeing her ex 2 days ago

tells me she might be a step mom soon today

 

now thats one hell of a rebound, time to run to the hills get right away from the fruit loop :eek:

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It's amazing how someone so jealous can move on so quickly. How many times have you broken up in the past?

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first time, we have borken up, we have had fights and not talked for a day or 2 but never broke up,maybe 6 or 7. the night of the break up we were having a bbq with all her family and friends and my friends, all was great, she was talking to a friends wife about how much she loved me, 'mike has my whole heart' she told her, a few drinks later im being accused of flirting with the same person, not true!, a friends wife who ive none for years, next thing is shes throwing things and yelling, she had had a lot to drink

 

totally lost, i could seein her eyes she loves me, why else cry and carry on like she is

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