Can love be one sided, if not did i even love her at all

[roman_pavluchenko]

Well pretty much, a while ago i noticed this girl at school, she was pretty good looking and seemed really nice. I eventually got to know her, got a strong connection with her friends + my friends, we all started going out together in a group and eventually me and her started dating. Now i was her first ever boyfriend and as far as i knew, the first guy to actually make an effort to talk to her daily, just talking about anything she developed feelings for me saying "i wasn't like other guys and that i was really nice and sweet."

 

Well we only dated 2 months. Thing is she never really wanted to see me that often and when we were together, she didn't exactly look happy. I remember my ex before her, if i was staring at her she would look me straight back in the eyes and smile, this girl would just stare at me blankly and say "what." Eventually her lack of affection and her lack of desire to want to spend time alone with me caused me to worry/get clingy, i would constantly ask if everything was alright etc etc and she dumped me.

 

It's been 3-4 months since we split and i still think about it a lot. She clearly didn't love me, my guess is that since she had never had a boyfriend before and that i was the first guy to actually try to get to know her she just thought she would date me to see what it was like and wasn't exactly interested. Anyways, i don't think she cares about me at all now because she hasn't tried contacting me once and apparently she has met many other guys at uni. But yeah, it it possible to love someone who didn't love you back, i must admitt, i didn't start getting to know her straight away, i was infatuated with her for a few months before i actually started talking to her.

[Delilah5]

Well pretty much, a while ago i noticed this girl at school, she was pretty good looking and seemed really nice. I eventually got to know her, got a strong connection with her friends + my friends, we all started going out together in a group and eventually me and her started dating. Now i was her first ever boyfriend and as far as i knew, the first guy to actually make an effort to talk to her daily, just talking about anything she developed feelings for me saying "i wasn't like other guys and that i was really nice and sweet."

 

Well we only dated 2 months. Thing is she never really wanted to see me that often and when we were together, she didn't exactly look happy. I remember my ex before her, if i was staring at her she would look me straight back in the eyes and smile, this girl would just stare at me blankly and say "what." Eventually her lack of affection and her lack of desire to want to spend time alone with me caused me to worry/get clingy, i would constantly ask if everything was alright etc etc and she dumped me.

 

It's been 3-4 months since we split and i still think about it a lot. She clearly didn't love me, my guess is that since she had never had a boyfriend before and that i was the first guy to actually try to get to know her she just thought she would date me to see what it was like and wasn't exactly interested. Anyways, i don't think she cares about me at all now because she hasn't tried contacting me once and apparently she has met many other guys at uni. But yeah, it it possible to love someone who didn't love you back, i must admitt, i didn't start getting to know her straight away, i was infatuated with her for a few months before i actually started talking to her.

Sadly, this same thing happened to me. I met a man on a dating web site. We talked for 6 mos. online and developed a good friendship. (So I thought) Then we met and it became more. I fell in love and he used me. He's a commitment phobe and completely emotionally unavailable. He had that same blank look when he looked at me too. Needless to say, last week he just stopped calling me. Wouldn't answer e-mails or have the decency to tell me he was done with me. You have to be really careful about who you try to love. So, YES, it is not only possible but factual.

[allie_lgh]

it's completely possible. Love is just another emotion only we feel it for longer periods of time than the others. But just as one person can be happy, or angry, or find friendship in someone without them liking the person back someone can love without being loved.

 

sucks don't it

[cdeyoung]

the thing is love isn't an emotion at all but rather how much you devote yourself. emotions are just a part of love but not love in itself. that's what a lot of people get confused by...

 

secondly, it is definitely possible for love to be one sided and my past relationship is evident of that. i did so much for that woman, and she cheated on me. i tried to work things out even after she cheated on me. a month has gone by, and what do i feel? I feel good that it didn't work out because now I realize how much of a ***** she truly was. love blinds you. it really does. be careful of who and how you love... love is about commitment and devotion.