stuck82 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Hey all, Was hoping I could get some advice here. Well, I just broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years who I love very much, more than anything. She is from Scandinavia and we have lived here and there together. I am from far away (Australia). Anyway, everyhting has come to a head and we have broken up now. We went through this exact thing 2 or so years ago, but got back together. The reason basically for the break up is me. Not communicating about emotions, the future, etc. I admit I never did that, I promised 2 years ago I woudl change but didnt. I thought breaking up now may be good, but then when it became reality that its happening I didnt want it. I love her so much and want our future to be together. We had it out just before at home, she said, I wont change, I really do want to but she doesnt believe it as I said the same things 2 years ago and shes been trying to talk to me. The thing is I really will and know I have to. She says she loves me, but doesnt see a future with me and doesnt love me as her husband and father to her kids in the future. Does anyone have some advice. Im hurting so much and want to be with her so much and prove to her that I can and will change. I mean ive opened up to her so much jsut in our last conversation where she told me that its definitely over.
felicians Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Give it a little while without any contact with her. Give her time to digest the situation. It'll drive you crazy in the meantime, but this is just as hard on her as it is for you. Right now if you are constantly contacting her, she has no time to miss you and is probably just getting annoyed that you keep pushing the issue. Give it a month then test the waters. Good luck!
Author stuck82 Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 (edited) Thanks for the response. I hope you are right. But what I worry about is that it'll just give her time to forget and get over me, and then there is no chance of reconciliation. Is there anything I can do to really show her that I am changing and being that more open communicative person she wants? I know these past couple of days shes just been with her friends, and Im sure they are jst bad mouthing me and telling her to move on. Ive written a long email to her about everything I feel and changing etc, but havent sent it yet, as she thinks Im being reactionary at this tage as Im in shock. So will hold off and send it in a couple of weeks if I still feel the same. Problem is im worried she will be over me and her friends, and Ive done the same thing 2 years ago as I said. Edited May 15, 2011 by stuck82
felicians Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Hold off for a few weeks, that way you can add on to the end that you've had the time to consider everything that has happened and that you can and will truly change if given the chance. She might appreciate the time in between, that way she might not be so quick to attribute it to shock.
Author stuck82 Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Ill try. I just wish I could find a way for her to realise that its not the same as 2 years ago and i really want a future more than anything, and i want and will communicate and talk with her and not push her away.
Author stuck82 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 Anyone got any other advise. im so lonely here..
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