Sugarkane Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 When my ex betrayed me, he also managed to turn everyone against me somehow. Even though I'm the one that got betrayed, everyone took his side. I really felt like I was in a episode of the twilight zone at the time. I really wanted to tell the ex friends that if they're too stupid not to see his BS, then they truely deserve to be friends with my ex. Even though I was betrayed and was dumped cruelly, I kept in NC. What was the point? I still got exiled anyway and no one saw through my exes BS. My ex was completely cruel for absolutely no reason and still came out on top.
Author Sugarkane Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 I could've said what I wanted, as I never saw my ex or the ex friends ever again. I hope he screws them all over, just like he did to me.
Kari Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Birds of a feather flock together. Eventually they will see his true colors, and by then it will be too late. If everyone ditched you over lies, then it is there loss. The more positive you put in the world, the more positive will come back. In his case, the negative he puts out there, will eventually come back to him. You made the right choice to stick with NC. It may seem that things are unfair now, but once you move on you may see the situation in a different light. I hope for the best.
captured_butterfly Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Hi SugarKane I know exactly how you feel, and it hurts like a bitch doesnt it?? All we ever do is love them unconditionally and all we get back is lies and BS!! I dont know what my ex was telling his family about us but it was pretty darn obvious his mother started to dislike me, after one of our break-ups before the final break-up his mother decided to slag me off to my work friend (luckily my work friend knows what im like!) saying how things were my fault cos i dint know wot i wanted! NOT TRUE!! Sometimes found it hard to trust cos the guy cheated on me! The EXACT same thing happened when his brother did this to his ex, everyone was slagging the poor girl off when all she did was unconditionally love the guy!! As much as i still love my ex and care for him, there is no going back, it really hurts to know he said stuff about me behind my back. Its been nearly 4 weeks since the final break up and ive maintained NC, even though he's still been ringing me. Keep up the NC and u'll keep getting stronger and stronger, dont need BS in our lives, we are worth soooooo much more than that :-)
Fufu Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Sugarkane, just continue to live your own life to the fullest. In time to come, you will realize that you are so right to move forward and away from this kind of person.
Author Sugarkane Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Captured Butterfly- My ex did exactly the same thing. I'm 99% sure that he must do this everytime he breaks up with someone, he is never the dumpee of coarse. Its been a long time but I still want revenge. Will I always feel this way? When he dumped me completely out of the blue and insulted me by text. I was shocked and confused. I messaged his best friend as my ex couldn't even be bothered giving me an explaination. She said that he always does this. She said that she didn't know if there was anyone else- complete BS because they told each other EVERYTHING. There was absolutely no secrets between them. Then she said that she hopes I would still be friend with my ex. Yeah right! Why would I want to be "friends" with my sociopath ex for? Man that cracks me up. I know she was only trying to be nice to me. But it infuriates me as this woman has NO IDEA. She's only been with one man her whole life. I mean, she married her high school sweetheart! What would she know about heartbreak! Its never happened to her yet!
collegeguy_24 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 The more positive you put in the world, the more positive will come back. I used to believe that, until lady luck decided my life wasn't already miserable enough, lets through something else into the mix! To the OP, if they dumped you for his lies, then they weren't really your friends, true friends stick with you through thick or thin. Now you have a clean slate, I suggest you go out there and make some true friends.
allie_lgh Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 you may always want revenge, but I hope you don't. It isn't worth it. If he and your friends left, it's because they weren't true to you in the first place. Breakups are messy, and people have to choose sides sometimes. It isn't always about who is right or wrong in the situation but instead where loyalty is. It sucks...and it isn't fair, but who ever said life was fair? Move on, everyday you spend dwelling over this is a day you could be living for yourself instead of dicks and bitches who don't deserve your thoughts.
Author Sugarkane Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 I remember someone else on here wnet throught the same thing. But the friends still kept in contact with them, knowing that they got betrayed and hurt. Yet these people just completely cut me off. Obviously my ex told them lies and poinsoned them all. I was going through a really bad time after the breakup, as it was completely out of the blue. I was severely depressed at the time and phoned one of the friends, as she said I could any time. When I did though, she treated me like a stranger and was really rude to me. It was bizzare. I deleted her number and never talked to her again. I'm 24 and she was a few years older than me. I thouht she would be mature enough to understand. Oviously I was wrong.
Kari Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I used to believe that, until lady luck decided my life wasn't already miserable enough, lets through something else into the mix! To the OP, if they dumped you for his lies, then they weren't really your friends, true friends stick with you through thick or thin. Now you have a clean slate, I suggest you go out there and make some true friends. My life hasn't been all sun shine and rainbows either. I still put as much positive I can out there. If I can make someone smile, it makes my day 100x better. There always isn't immediate results, but eventually things do fall into place. I agree about the OP. Time to go out and expand your social circle. Good friends are hard to come by, but once you meet them you'll be glad you went through the trouble.
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