Author PhillyDude Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 I don't know about the ins & outs of online dating as I've never done it but there are several things that are considered creepy if done by a man but not so if done by a woman. Exactly, like when a woman askes me....What company do you work for? If a man askes that she will probably hang up and say-"OMG e was going to stalk me"
Author PhillyDude Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Just make sure that if you 'click' together and you want to persue a relationship with her... that you take the profile down... this way you avoid starting another thread on here as to why she dumped you after a month of dating... only to find out that your profile was still up, and in use. I will just delete the photo and not renew the membership not take the profile down completely.
TheLoneSock Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Take it as a compliment. I don't think it's creepy. It just means she is thinking about you. Also, if any girl ever gives you the vibe that she thinks you're creepy for looking at her profile more than once she is probably a ditz - in which case you should not be dating her anyway.
Knittress Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Seriously guys, if you were a woman you'd understand why we get so easily spooked by probably-innocuous male behavior. One in four college aged women has been raped, we know this. In fact, I bet there isn't a woman alive that hasn't had a close friend or family member who's been through this, comforted them, and been affected by the bat**** trauma-triggered behavior that continues, sometimes for the rest of a woman's life. And we know this could have been/be us. You, as men, do NOT see or experience this. You are bigger/stronger than us, and if you don't care enough about us to refrain from freaking us out when we're obviously uncomfortable - how are we to know that you care enough about us to refrain from hurting us in an alleyway? Stop whining about 'a double standard' and realize that all things are NOT equal, you are bigger/stronger.
Art_Critic Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 One in four college aged women has been raped, we know this. You need to revisit your statistics... Do you mean that 1 in 4 women in college has been raped ?.. that doesn't mean 1 in 4 women college age have been raped..
Knittress Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 You need to revisit your statistics... Do you mean that 1 in 4 women in college has been raped ?.. that doesn't mean 1 in 4 women.. Does that change the essence of what I had to say? Does my failure to cross-reference my research in any way change the female experience? I'm explaining how we FEEL as women, and you're trying to devalue that because my percentages might be skewed? You're acting like part of the problem right now.
Art_Critic Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 (edited) All I mentioned is that your stats were VERY skewed and that would change things somewhat.. Maybe you made a typo.. maybe you didn't but why climb down my throat because of something that you posted in error ? I'm part of the problem WTF ??? Edited May 15, 2011 by Art_Critic
Delilah5 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I guess when a woman does it not a big deal right? I met this girl online about a week ago and we been chatting on the phone and texting and will be meeting in about 5 days. But I noticed everytime I go online to check for new messages I see that she viewed my profile again. That's been 3 times since we have exchanged numbers. Now if this was a guy he would be labeled as creepy. Of course I don't bring it when I talk to her on the phone but I just thought it was odd that she keeps viewing my profile. Does this sound odd to anyone else? Oh yeah. It's got serial killer written all over it. Maybe she just likes looking at you. What happens when you meet? You gonna weewee all over yourself in fear? You know that she's going to be looking at you then up close and personal. Scary!!!!! It's when you do meet and you decide you don't like her and you find her creeping around your house at night with a great big knife and a loco y cabeza look on her face that should truly alarm you. Relax. She just thinks you're cute. And I'm just messin' witcha. PEACE and Good Luck with your "date".
Knittress Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 (edited) All I mentioned is that your stats were VERY skewed and that would change things somewhat.. Maybe you made a typo.. maybe you didn't but why climb down my throat because of something that you posted in error ? I'm part of the problem WTF ??? I said that you were ACTING like part of the problem RIGHT NOW. I wouldn't have worded it like that if I didn't generally consider you decently-minded. You were trying to undermine someone else's point of view, based on your own perceptions - as a man with a wikipedia link. THAT is the problem. Whether the reality is one in four, one in five, or even one in six - as women, this is a quote we hear often. It's part of our psychological environment. Who CARES if we only have a 1/100 chance of being raped by any particular man in any particular setting? What I am talking about is constant knowledge of our physical vulnerability that is part of what it means to live life as a woman. THAT is why we are so quick to get spooked and see probably-innocent behavior as creepy. It's understandable. To a woman. Edited May 15, 2011 by Knittress
Art_Critic Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I said that you were ACTING like part of the problem RIGHT NOW. I wouldn't have worded it like that if I didn't generally consider you decently-minded. You were trying to undermine someone else's point of view, based on your own perceptions - as a man with a wikipedia link. THAT is the problem. Whether the reality is one in four, one in five, or even one in six - as women, this is a quote we hear often. It's part of our psychological environment. Who CARES if we only have a 1/100 chance of being raped by any particular man in any particular setting? What I am talking about is constant knowledge of our physical vulnerability that is part of what it means to live life as a woman. THAT is why we are so quick to get spooked and see probably-innocent behavior as creepy. It's understandable. To a woman. Really ??? Drama much ... I really don't think you can speak for all woman or even most...
Knittress Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Really ??? Drama much ... I really don't think you can speak for all woman or even most... The label "drama" implies that you find the feelings expressed hold no merit or basis in reality. Consider it a privilege that you can choose to discount them. Also, part of the problem.
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