PhillyDude Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I guess when a woman does it not a big deal right? I met this girl online about a week ago and we been chatting on the phone and texting and will be meeting in about 5 days. But I noticed everytime I go online to check for new messages I see that she viewed my profile again. That's been 3 times since we have exchanged numbers. Now if this was a guy he would be labeled as creepy. Of course I don't bring it when I talk to her on the phone but I just thought it was odd that she keeps viewing my profile. Does this sound odd to anyone else?
ladyinlimbo Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 If you're by chance referring to Plenty of Fish (dating site), a lot of people have the misconception that whoever shows up as having viewed their profile EVER, keeps showing up because they've recently viewed it. On that site what it really means is that they have viewed it at some point in the past...could have been months ago. So what she's viewed your profile? Would you prefer she be checking out other guys' profiles instead? Sheesh.
Rinnix Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Perhaps she wanted to read it over or check if you had new photos? Or, you know, she can be just checking out the old photos, double take. I don't think it's too creepy.
rayne05us Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Maybe she's showing her friends the guy she's interested in the pictures of you or something. I wouldn't read too much into it. Can I ask you if someone accused you of this, how would you feel?
ladyinlimbo Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Maybe she's showing her friends the guy she's interested in the pictures of you or something. I wouldn't read too much into it. Can I ask you if someone accused you of this, how would you feel? Good point. It's very very possible that she's excited to have 'met' someone online and she IS showing your profile to her girlfriends....because she's excited to have connected with you and to be meeting you. No reason to be making her out to be some kind of cyber-stalker.
D-Lish Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 It's not creepy. I look at a guys profile that I am about to meet more than once. I do it to make sure I still want to meet him. Sometimes I am undecided if I think he is attractive, and I'll look at his profile again in case I want to re-evaluate meeting him. There are many possibilites for viewing someone's profile more than once- I don't think it's creepy.
Author PhillyDude Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Maybe she's showing her friends the guy she's interested in the pictures of you or something. I wouldn't read too much into it. Can I ask you if someone accused you of this, how would you feel? I'm just pointing out how things are different when it comes to men and women online. I just can see a woman saying to one of her girlfriends "This guy I'm talking to online keeps looking at my profile after we talk on the phone and it's really starting to creep me out.
rayne05us Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 No no no, those are called DRAMATIC WOMEN, not all women are like that, trust.
Art_Critic Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I agree that it isn't creepy.. for either sex to be doing it... How are you supposed to see if the person is a good fit or if you need to be reminded about their hobbies other than to go back and look... Who prints out and files the peoples profiles ?.. At least you know she is interested in you.. she also might be trying to show you that interest and hoping that you will be prompted to contact her again.
Author PhillyDude Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 It's not creepy. I look at a guys profile that I am about to meet more than once. I do it to make sure I still want to meet him. Sometimes I am undecided if I think he is attractive, and I'll look at his profile again in case I want to re-evaluate meeting him. There are many possibilites for viewing someone's profile more than once- I don't think it's creepy. Well how many times do you have to look at a phone to know if you are attracted to it? I tnought that would be instant. I know for me it doesn't take too long to dtermine i I'm attracted.
Art_Critic Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 How many of you posters have gone back to this thread and read it again..either looking for changes or to reread posts ? Creepy ?
ladyinlimbo Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Well how many times do you have to look at a phone to know if you are attracted to it? I tnought that would be instant. I know for me it doesn't take too long to dtermine i I'm attracted. Well that is you and not everyone thinks like you. Perhaps she refers to your profile to see if what you're telling her on the phone is jiving with what you've written in your profile.
TuffCookieX Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 It's not creepy. I look at a guys profile that I am about to meet more than once. I do it to make sure I still want to meet him. Sometimes I am undecided if I think he is attractive, and I'll look at his profile again in case I want to re-evaluate meeting him. There are many possibilites for viewing someone's profile more than once- I don't think it's creepy. Ditto. I'll show friends his page and also keep checking to re-confirm my decision on meeting up with him. I'll even re-check the page (or facebook) after a first date because as odd as it sounds, I quickly forget what the guy looks like. Maybe it's because I'm such a serial dater. If it IS plentyoffish or okcupid, you CAN see the last time someone viewed your profile, they are sorted by last viewed.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I'm a guy and actually the OP creeps me out more by over-thinking the situation. If I was the girl and he brought that up to me it would be a big red flag of immaturity.
Lilmisus Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I don't think it's creepy for anyone to do it really. Unless she checks it constantly. One thing that I thought was really weird was how one dude kept trying to message me, and if I didn't message him back (I wasn't interested at all), he would view my profile then message something like "I see that you love dancing, I'm not much of a dancer, but you could teach me!" or "I must say, I really enjoy your profile, everything about you seems great!" or one that I loved "I can't stop looking at your pictures, beautiful!" Those and about three other conversation starters like that within the two days I had the profile up and running. He admitted to always checking out my profile, but it still was really really weird to have him keep mentioning things to me about what I put there when I wouldn't respond to him. It felt like he was stalking me as best he could, and came off more along the lines of desperate than anything else. Doesn't seem like she's doing that to you though. But with your case, I think that it's not weird at all. So she checked your profile a couple times? She probably just likes what she reads and is excited Take it as a compliment!
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Not creepy at all. I did this when OLD. It's either because I am unsure if I want to meet him, to refresh my memory before talking on the phone or meeting or (in rare instances) because his pictures are so hot, I can't stop looking at them There is this guy that I went on 2 dates with 6 months ago. He rejected me after second date saying that he has just become exclusive with someone else. Well, he STILL looks at my profile, at least few times a week. I still don't think he is being creepy.
Dust Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Creepy is a word girls use to describe any action a man they’ve deemed unattractive annoys/scares them with. A man being creeped out by a girl is pretty lame. Guys shouldn’t be calling people creeps, we are the creeps!
Stung Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I'm just pointing out how things are different when it comes to men and women online. I just can see a woman saying to one of her girlfriends "This guy I'm talking to online keeps looking at my profile after we talk on the phone and it's really starting to creep me out. When I was online dating and a guy I was talking to was checking my profile regularly, I didn't think he was creepy, I just assumed he was really interested in me. I don't usually consider it a bad thing when people find me attractive and interesting, in and of itself. Reading this thread, maybe I should have been more worried that he was trying to figure out whether he liked me or not.... Maybe my interpretation just means I have a big ego. Anyway, for me to consider an online guy creepy he has to do something worse than look repeatedly at a picture that I have posted expressly for people to look at.
Ginger Beer Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Sometimes when I missed my girl I used to look on her Facebook at her pictures. I am a creep.
Kari Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Sometimes when I missed my girl I used to look on her Facebook at her pictures. I am a creep. I used to do the same with my boyfriend's photos.
oaks Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 If it IS plentyoffish or okcupid, you CAN see the last time someone viewed your profile, they are sorted by last viewed. Are you sure that's the case for PoF? It seems to me that they are sorted by first viewed, apart from the separate row at the top which is sorted by last logged in (regardless of when viewed).
irc333 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Well, after having been on POF for a time, you eventually come across the same chronically single people over and over again, and so one would probably keep viewing the same profiles repeatedly, too. Heck, after a few months or longer (sometimes a year) of having an emailed a woman that hasn't responded back, I would send another email because they get so many emails on a constant basis, they might have not even overlooked mine. lol Sometimes I figure, "Hey, look who's still here." and would make another attempt. There was one woman that was complaining in her profile that she keeps getting 4th or 5th emails from the same men that email her and to knock it off. lol When I was online dating and a guy I was talking to was checking my profile regularly, I didn't think he was creepy, I just assumed he was really interested in me. I don't usually consider it a bad thing when people find me attractive and interesting, in and of itself. Reading this thread, maybe I should have been more worried that he was trying to figure out whether he liked me or not.... Maybe my interpretation just means I have a big ego. Anyway, for me to consider an online guy creepy he has to do something worse than look repeatedly at a picture that I have posted expressly for people to look at.
TuffCookieX Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Are you sure that's the case for PoF? It seems to me that they are sorted by first viewed, apart from the separate row at the top which is sorted by last logged in (regardless of when viewed). Yes, the first row is sorted by people who have viewed your profile at some point, sorted by when they were last online. Everyone else below is last viewed. When I check, the faces that are in the viewed area match exactly to the order I get the e-mails in.
lino Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I don't know about the ins & outs of online dating as I've never done it but there are several things that are considered creepy if done by a man but not so if done by a woman.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Creepy is subjective. Good looking guy looks at her profile = not creepy Average or ugly looking guy looks at her profile = creepy You have to put it all into context.
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