Miss M Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Hello, I have been with this guy for 3 1/2 months and at first as I was really into him, but slowly I have realized that he is not for me. He is very into me and keeps talking about us in the future. I just don't know what to say to him, how should I break up with him, any advice?
Mike_d Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 honesty, honesty, honesty. and then be honest. tell the truth, be compassionate, set your boundaries and talk with him, don't drag it out. if you feel that you want to be friends tell him, if you don't feel like friends then tell him that too. but sooner rather than later.
rayne05us Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Yes I agrees with mike, be 100% honest. But could it possibly be that he's pressuring you or rushing you before you're ready or is it just the connection is lost?
Ajax Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Yes, be honest and give him a real explaination as to what happened. Don't muddle things with half truths. No "I have to find myself" or "I can't be in a relationship now" if that's not true. But don't offer friendship either. Coming from someone who's been on the recieving end of it and having read countless posts here where exes offer friendship, it really is condescending and disrespectful. He very well may "want" to remain friends, but if he really is as into you as you say, he'll never be happy with it and will either come to resent you or continue (annoyingly) to win you back. Just let him go so he can begin the healing process. What made you drealize he wasn't the one for you, and does he have any warning?
NicoleM Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Most importantly do not repeat do not lead him on thinking it will last. Break up with him in person not in e-mail over the phone or not over text messaging. Believe it or not guys are sensitive too whether the choose to admit or not:p
Author Miss M Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Yes, be honest and give him a real explaination as to what happened. Don't muddle things with half truths. No "I have to find myself" or "I can't be in a relationship now" if that's not true. But don't offer friendship either. Coming from someone who's been on the recieving end of it and having read countless posts here where exes offer friendship, it really is condescending and disrespectful. He very well may "want" to remain friends, but if he really is as into you as you say, he'll never be happy with it and will either come to resent you or continue (annoyingly) to win you back. Just let him go so he can begin the healing process. What made you drealize he wasn't the one for you, and does he have any warning? I came across a new term while dating him "codependent" and I'm just not the type of person that can be with a person like this. In the beginning it was all new and exciting, but his behaviors have caused me to lose interest in him and I don't think he has a clue.
Art_Critic Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Make sure the door is left totally closed.. not even a whisper of you guys being friends or anything like that as he will use that to try and open the door again. Honesty.. but also being firm and closing that door
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