oaks Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 What happens is on LS, some girls would post photos of themselves. They know they are pretty so they showcase themselves, which is a great thing. Nothing wrong with that. Then guys on LS who can't get any dates in real life would PM them. So this is exactly what is happening in reality too. The pretty girls in the world get approached by men. The ugly ones don't. Online, you'd think there would only be ugly girls rite? No. There'll be pretty girls who'd be what the online guys would go for, leaving the ugly girls alone. So ugly girls=no guys no matter where they are. I don't think I've seen a photo of you. Is your mailbox full or empty?
Kari Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Everyone has a different eye for beauty. So, everyone should have some flirtatious messages in there inbox by now.
SmileFace Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Wait, have you even posted a picture of yourself on this site? It is beyond me why you are even on this site fishing for dates(attention). It is one thing the feel bad for yourself but seeking pity isn't attractive.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I am sorry for my earlier response. You're right, it was mean. And I have been diagnosed with BDD (Body Dismorphic Disorder), so perhaps I'm not even that ugly. I just feel that way. I suspect OrangeLady has a form of BDD. If I saw her pic, I'd probably think she was pretty. If I posted my picture here, maybe someone would find me attractive (I did post my pic on ENA, and had some girls saying I was very handsome. I just don't see it.) Meh, this thread is just a pity fest. Nobody is dating or pm'ing the attractive ladies here. I thought Rinnix was cute, but we've barely even talked, and certainly not outside of the main forum.
Darren Taylor Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I have no problem putting my picture, but I keep it in my profile and in a private album. I will never post it in a thread, especially when one of my contacts took them and posted them in the thread without my permission.
orion1010 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I tend to agree. Women who put their pictures up are usually declaring "look how gorgeous I am"..... Then they don't usually have anything interesting to say, give arrogant or pointless advice, and go on about how great their latest date was ..... why they are here at all is unclear ...I tend to avoid their posts if I can... Interesting.. women who put their picture up on here are narcissistic brainless twits who come on here to brag about their latest and greatest date? What about then men who put their picture up? What are they to you? I suppose if they are hot and respond to your thread they are nice, caring, and give great advice! Thanks for the laugh!
Jazzari Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I tend to agree. Women who put their pictures up are usually declaring "look how gorgeous I am"..... Then they don't usually have anything interesting to say, give arrogant or pointless advice, and go on about how great their latest date was ..... why they are here at all is unclear ...I tend to avoid their posts if I can...Wow. That was uncalled for and so wrong. i am just agreeing with what other posters have said, if you want to put it in those words its up to you. there are no pictures of men here, just the occasional torso (not usually even their own) and i tend to ignore them too....Yes, there are pictures of men here. In fact, on this very page.
mr.dream merchant Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 My pictures used to be on here lol. Mistake.
thehead Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I already told u guys. It's an inferiority complex. Look through her posts. There is a recurring theme of guys only going after attractive girls, not being attractive enough, life isn't fair, etc. Yea you saw it right. I read through a good sampling of her posts and this is about PMs and inferiority. There are always going to be hot girls, rich people, others with seemingly perfect lives. Orangelady's going to have a rough go of it. My pictures used to be on here lol. Mistake. What happened? Did they get jacked? Jane, I feel you on some of what you said but it's not true for all women (or men) here with pictures. Skewed self-image doesn't just affect men. Women have poor perception too. If anything, are more likely to see flaws in themselves others don't. I dated a beautiful woman for 4 yrs who didn't realize just how stunning she was and she was often hurt by other women's reactions to her. There was an honest disconnect between her self-perception and the reality. Through posts history, you get a feeling for who is attention-seeking and who isn't. It becomes fairly obvious who puts a premium of how they look and who doesn't. At least to me.
fishtaco Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I would not, and have not PM'ed any woman here just because she has a pretty picture. Not my style. But, why would this be a surprise? The person that gets the most positive attention from the opposite gender will get... well, the most attention from the opposite gender. I don't even know how to describe this without using the same words. It's like the most basic concepts of dating. Be the positive attention getter in the room, and things will swing in your favor.
Kamille Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Be the positive attention getter in the room, and things will swing in your favor. Or, to quote the great 20th century poet and philosopher, Marvin Gaye: No more standing there beside the walls I have got myself together, baby I'm having a ball Long as you're grooving There's always a chance Somebody watching might wanna make romance Words I live by.
Dust Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 If this is a real concern of yours I urge you to gain some confidence. Whether you perceive this to be true or not doesn’t really matter. What does matter is not getting upset about what is not in your control. I personally wonder why any one would want their pictures up on this site.
johan Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I get the impression orangelady finally realized what a debauched place this is and has decided not to come back.
welikeincrowds Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I was going to try to make orangelady feel better by PMing her with a lovely poem about her, but I couldn't think of anything that rhymes with orangelady.
thehead Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 You can't fool us BA. We've seen how you keep flirting up rinnix. You should be ashamed of yourself. It is disgusting. There you are sweetheart! This is what? Your fifth profile Disinterested/Begin Again? You're one lonely little fella, ain't cha? And you certainly weren't much of a friend to Orangelady. Then again, you pride yourself on not liking people or being nice. You certainly proved that to her. Poor kid.
thehead Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Nice try BA but the old switcheroo won't work this time. We've got you cornered. Now come peacefully like a good lad. God, I love you. Yes, you're a sad, spiteful, little loner but you're MY sad, spiteful little loner!
Sanman Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I will agree that Orion, Rinnix, and a few of the other female posters that have posted pics are attractive. However, I have yet to hit on any of them via PM. Should I have been doing this? Honestly though Orangelady, if you are serious about your beliefs, why haven't you poster your own pic?
Star Gazer Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 WTF? Where are all my flirty PMs??? ((stomping feet))
Dust Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Orangelady who do you have a crush on? (is there a specific LS user) Also who are you jealous of? (name names)
nothappyjan Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 why would it bother you that other people are pm'ed... I personally think loveshack is the last place i'd want to meet my future partner as i'd then not be able to share all my issues. Plus everyone all over the world use this site so the chance of meeting my dream man in my own state are slim surely. But maybe i should add my pic to my avatar are you out there dreamboat :love:
Kari Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 She has become infatuated with the idea that everything revolves around beauty like many here and the supposed inequality resulting from it. This along with the belief in her own aesthetic limitations have given root to a conspiracy theory. In it she and her "kin" are the central figures who suffer at the hands of a male driven world that denies love based on physical attractiveness. If any of it were true then I would simply not exist. Everyone has different taste, someone's "model" can be another's "average everyday woman". We all age, outer beauty (youth) cannot last forever. What will happen to us women when we turn 80? Will we no longer be able to achieve love? We can't choose what we look like, but it doesn't mean that people will see those who are deemed "less attractive" as unequal. It's a shame, the more bitter someone is, the harder time they are going to have. Id much rather live with my imperfections and embrace them.
Kari Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Here in Montreal the women are rather beautiful, I wouldn't be surprised if there were numerous models. Instead of feeling threatened by them, I pay them compliments and tell them how great they look. However, you don't need to look perfect in order to model, you just need certain features. We just have to learn to accept ourselves and love what we were given. (Media doesn't always help women.)
Kari Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 She's hit on a few as well and tried to make friends with them but according to her they were standoffish. Just because some women this way, it doesn't mean that we need to assume all females are. I'm approachable and friendly. I may be a bit awkward, but if someone comes up to me I wouldn't be rude.
orion1010 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 (edited) why would it bother you that other people are pm'ed... I personally think loveshack is the last place i'd want to meet my future partner as i'd then not be able to share all my issues. Plus everyone all over the world use this site so the chance of meeting my dream man in my own state are slim surely. But maybe i should add my pic to my avatar are you out there dreamboat :love: I'm not on here to meet my future husband or boyfriend and that's not why my picture is up too. The chances that anyone knows me on here is VERY slim. Like I said, if they do all I have to say to this is "hey, how's it going?" I never really gave it much thought as to what my avatar should be. I'm new. I just threw up my most recent pic from facebook. From my pic, you won't find my facebook. I would never release information about myself that I don't want people knowing. I really don't see the big deal at all?? My facebook pic can easily be hijacked. or my old myspace acct that i never deleted. My friends post pics of me on their facebook and I don't tell them they can't unless their page is private. It's only a pic and it's not like it's a dirty or an embarrasing pic. My inbox is not flooded with PM's and if you read my current threads, I'm sure most men would run. lol.. I really don't see what the big deal is?? Edited May 16, 2011 by orion1010 bad spelling. eek!
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