jfairmont Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 (edited) I know this guy that has a girlfriend, but at the same time he has online dating profiles which list him as single. Why would he put up the illusion that he is single when he is clearly in a relationship? What does this say about what kind of person he is? I always thought he was kind, considerate courteous and an all around great person. When he was in previous relationships he only had eyes for them. Never wandered around. But why is it that he puts up some kind of facade? Also I recently asked him out and he told me that he had a girlfriend... so I am really confused by all this. Edited May 14, 2011 by jfairmont
Rinnix Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Nothing is ever as it appears to be. It just shows that he is a selfish person. He wants to have his cake and to eat it too. I do hope the girlfriend finds out, so that she can run for the hills.
Sivok Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I've learned to judge people by their actions, not words. You tend to be alot less surprised that way with outcomes
ladyinlimbo Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 You say you "always thought" he was kind and considerate.....giving the impression that you've known him for some period of time. So if that's true, why did you recently ask him out then - if he were aware he had a girlfriend?
Author jfairmont Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 (edited) You say you "always thought" he was kind and considerate.....giving the impression that you've known him for some period of time. So if that's true, why did you recently ask him out then - if he were aware he had a girlfriend? I had no idea that he had a girlfriend till i asked him out. He told me only then. I would NEVER date someone if they had a girlfriend. But I wonder why he told me he had a gf and yet he has his profile on dating sites saying he is single? Edited May 14, 2011 by jfairmont
ladyinlimbo Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I had no idea that he had a girlfriend till i asked him out. He told me only then. I would NEVER date someone if they had a girlfriend. But I wonder why he told me he had a gf and yet he has his profile on dating sites saying he is single? Oh, okay, sorry, didn't know that. Thanks for clarifying. So you obviously met him in real life AND just happened to find his profile on a dating site that you're also on? As to why he's in a relationship yet marketing himself on a dating site as single and available -- who knows why people do sheisty things like this? Sometimes they think the grass is greener on the other side. Sometimes they're not that happy in their relationship but they're too cowardly/chickensh*t or HONEST to just end it and then look for someone else.....so they sneak around looking for a Plan B while still with Plan A. But wait...............do you know for SURE that he has a girlfriend? - or do you only know this because he told you this? What I mean is.........is it possible he just wasn't interested in going out with you so he fibbed and claimed to have a girlfriend when in actuality he really doesn't? How do you know he's so kind and considerate? Why don't you just drop him a note on through the dating site, tell him you're surprised to see him there because he'd told you he had a girlfriend. LOL.
thatone Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 or maybe he met the girlfriend and never went back to those dating sites? they aren't going to just delete a potentially paying customer. unless he actively removes those profiles they'll be there forever.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 or maybe he met the girlfriend and never went back to those dating sites? they aren't going to just delete a potentially paying customer. unless he actively removes those profiles they'll be there forever. True enough in a lot of cases. I've read many an angry rant from uses of Eharmony who ended up meeting someone and trying their damndest to have their profile there deleted but no such luck. Am sure that's not the only place............though, there are dating sites that will give specific info as to whether the member is 'active' on the site and even the last time they logged in (date and time).
Star Gazer Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Perhaps he used it as an excuse because he's just not interested. I'd think if he was interested, he would have asked you out... you wouldn't have had to chase him.
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