Woggle Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Also some women who look for a daddy figure in a man tend to also have a teenage rebellion stage where they see the man as an oppressive father if he doesn't want her doing something like sleeping with her boss.
PJKino Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I want a women who wants to be my partner not daughter who searching for another daddy.. Besides doesnt it make sense that decisions are made in relationships depending on who may have more knowledge or strength in a certaiin area? Why would a Man make every decision even in an area the women might be more knowledgable in just because hes a Man? Makes no sense to me..
Els Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 It's not necessarily easier to let somebody else make decisions. I just feel that it is more right for me, as a woman, to accept a decision, than it is for a man to accept a decision made by a woman. Ego and all that. And one of the few things that irritate me is when I ask someone, "What do you think of this (insert project/idea)." And they say, "Whatever you think." I'm like wtf?? I asked for your opinion not my own...?? Eh, I disagree with the men on this thread. I'm pretty sure there's a whole genre of men who prefer your style of thinking, although they would probably be more traditional - ie prefer traditional gender roles, as well. I personally disagree with your opinion - I'm very opinionated, and I get a little peeved when people think that they're better at me without actually being better, or for no good reason. BUT. I think it's a perfectly valid stand to have in relationships, if it makes you happy. We don't all need to fit into some cookie-cutter 21st century American feminist girl role. Be whatever makes you glad.
EasyHeart Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 For a really small, inconsequential example, i would sight my kids and I. My daughter wishes i would decide and cook the dinner every night, but when i do make decisions about dinner, i have tended to get criticised, because it isn't what they feel like eating, or has things they don't like, isn't nutricious enough, is too nutricious, not enough variety, etc etc. You've had a little taste of what it's like for us men when we date women. I guess for myself, I want a guy who is comfortable wearing the pants, and is ALSO comfortable with me wearing the other pair of pants.I think it's great if a woman wants to wear pants, but usually she also wants to take away the man's pants and leave him standing there in his boxers.
Stung Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I think it's great if a woman wants to wear pants, but usually she also wants to take away the man's pants and leave him standing there in his boxers. It usually puts my husband into a pretty good mood when I start stripping him down to his boxers.
Els Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 It usually puts my husband into a pretty good mood when I start stripping him down to his boxers. LOL. :love::love::love:
NoMagicBullet Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 ^^^ that is a real eye-opener. *ponders* Well of course no man wants a submissive woman who can't make decisions on their own and goes running to him for every little detail. But what about the bigger decisions that should and could be made with both partners present? Your incapacitated example is a bit extreme, because the man can't do anything. In that case, initial grief can be forgiven, but I'd hope that later on she'd take responsibility. I would fight for and happily dive into heated arguments to support my point of view. But the ultimate decision, I think, lies with the man, and overall it would be easier for that decision to be accepted by the entire family/society. Please pick apart my case, I realize that I'm young, thus I come here for more mature points of view I don't think it's the case for everyone, but I do think this is the case for you. It seems like you have a sense of what will work for you in a relationship, and that's good. Too many people don't know what the h**l they want. So my suggestions are: 1) As long as you don't expect everyone else to adopt the same philosophy, you'll be fine. Although you'll likely find it difficult if you have daughters who don't accept your view of male/female relationships. 2) Find the right man for you. You don't want the super-alpha who doesn't appreciate your opinions at all (and they are out there), nor do you want the guy who wants the woman to make all the decisions and run things (yes, they are out there, too). Since you are young, you may also find your ideas and attitudes change over time with additional dating/relationship experience. It's okay -- no one has it all figured out, and there are no one-size-fits-all solutions.
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