cdeyoung Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Me and my girlfriend broke up a month ago. She cheated on me with her ex, saying I was a "piece of ****" (which I obviously wasn't), I was "controlling" (I had some issues I'll admit, but they were minor and could have very easily been pacified), I had "trust issues" (the only reason I had trust issues is because she cheated on HIM), and that I "changed". I don't recall changing that much... Now she is... * Living with said ex in a house he just bought. They broke up after four months being together, she cheated on him with a guy at the bar (made out with him) and got his number from him. * Saying she loves him to death, and that he's sweet, caring and the most amazing man she's ever met. She told me the same exact things when she was with me, and that she's "crazy about him". Yeah... she was crazy about me, too, constantly texting me and putting FB messages about how much she loves me. * Changed her number, her email, etc... all because I threatened to beat the living **** out of her new boyfriend. * She told me she used me for sex and a place to live. Honestly, how long do you expect those two to last? I am just curious because when they break up I want to be the last one having a good old laugh at what a **** pile she turned her life into. She is not even going to school in September anymore because she's living out in the country with her "amazing" man. The reason they broke up before was because he was a pot smoker, and pretty much just had sex with her and never did anything with her. Me, on the other hand, took her to movies, dinners, went shopping with her to get stuff for our place pretty much all the time, treated her good, my family loved her like family and apparently she told all her friends that I was the best thing that ever happened to her. I'm moving on very well, I am just curious how long you'd expect her to last with him.
vsmini Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 It's a lesson to be learned that when someone cheats - even if they cheat on someone else in order to be with you...it's still unhealthy. It doesn't seem like you are moving on all that well because you're very much involved in what's going on in her life. You need to do no contact and that includes not trying to find out about what is going on in her life. I don't think it will last for her as she's already cheated on him and she sounds really immature. Who knows for how long - some people with unhealthy relationships even end up getting married. Still - don't let her misery make you feel better. What does that say about yourself. Rise above it. If you know you're better than her then act like it and don't give it another thought.
Art_Critic Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 * Changed her number, her email, etc... all because I threatened to beat the living **** out of her new boyfriend. Be glad that she did that.. she did you a favor..and hopefully you will never threaten another person on voice mail.. In today's world of terrorism they can lock you up for a long time if you threaten someone and it is recorded. You seem to know an awful lot about her and her new BF and for no reason other than information gathering. I wouldn't worry about her and how long it will last.. you need to move on and forget about her. Go out and find another GF...
Tayla Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 True dat Art Critic! I personally as a Lady don't want a gent like that on the prowl again. He has serious issues if he is keeping tabs on a previous relations. That just sends a red flag my way when a guy rants about his ex the way he did. Seething of angst and spewing inappropriate remarks against a lady that he chose to date and now got dumped by.
Author cdeyoung Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 True dat Art Critic! I personally as a Lady don't want a gent like that on the prowl again. He has serious issues if he is keeping tabs on a previous relations. That just sends a red flag my way when a guy rants about his ex the way he did. Seething of angst and spewing inappropriate remarks against a lady that he chose to date and now got dumped by. A lady lol... she is far from a lady
Fedor Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Sounds like your better off! Dont worry about her and the bf. They shouldnt be important to you at this point.
nittygritty Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 * She told me she used me for sex and a place to live. People like that don't usually change very much. Their relationships only last until the "free ride" runs out and then they move on to their next victim. Toxic situation. Consider yourself lucky. Let her go and don't get back with her if she tries to recycle you when her relationships end.
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